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Elder financial exploitation steals $28.3 BILLION yearly and 90% of the time it’s by someone known and trusted - often family. 😔
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1️⃣ Family dynamics & predatory roots
2️⃣ Coercive control & undue influence tactics
3️⃣ Ideas on safeguards to help prevent POA abuse.
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#ElderAbuse #ProtectOurParents #FinancialExploitation
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Shared with my friend's consent and yes it's legal advice but just to him
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Evil walks amongst us. And this is caught on camera. Imagine the evil taking place behind closed doors at family owned and operated unlicensed ALFs owned by @BukekileD.
Or those that operate on the honor code, self-report, and self-police themselves.
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People who need care may have no affordable alternative to Medicaid. They still deserve a clear explanation of estate recovery before enrollment.
#ProtectOurParents #Legacy #Family
My coworker's mother passed away last November.
She left her modest $190,000 house to him clear and free, no mortgage, completely paid off after thirty years of factory work.
He moved into the home in January to finally settle the estate.
Two weeks ago, a letter arrived from the state Medicaid estate recovery office.
Because his mother spent four months in a rehabilitation facility before she passed, the state quietly slapped a retroactive $114,000 lien against the property title.
He called the state health department, frantic, asking how a hospital stay could bankrupt an inherited home that had no mortgage balance.
The caseworker sighed and told him:
"Federal law requires state programs to claw back healthcare costs from deceased estates. The house cannot be sold or transferred until the balance is cleared in full."
He offered to pay a monthly settlement.
They said no. The full $114,000 is due in 60 days, or they foreclose on the property at a public auction.
A lifetime of working-class savings, wiped out overnight by a retroactive healthcare lien.
You don't own generational wealth.
You're just holding a property title until the state finds a legal mechanism to repossess it the moment you die.
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We treat our Senior citizens like crap 💩
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In the last 48 hours, I’ve spent more than $500 on a raised toilet seat and a bed alarm for my 89 year old mom.
Not luxuries. Not extravagances. Basic necessities to keep her safe in her home.
I’m her full time caregiver. No salary. No days off. No retirement plan. Just an endless stream of expenses and the privilege of caring for the woman who spent her life caring for others
And I’m still trying to raise money for a hospital bed.
I’m grateful beyond words for everyone who has helped. But our system seems
Perfectly content to let family caregivers to shoulder an enormous financial and physical burden, then congratulate us on our devotion.
Devotion doesn’t pay the bills.
If you are able to help, or share our GoFundMe, I’d be enormously grateful.
And to those who are preparing to suggest hospice, reverse mortgages, or renting out a room, I assure you, the unsolicited advice department is fully staffed.
gofund.me/efb38337d
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It is shameful what the PT is now doing to my family. And how they will allow the removed POA to steal my moms inheritance.
Who should get the money?
Larry King's wife says he quietly gave his son $266,261 from a secret account. Then a handwritten will left her nothing.
He wrote the will on October 17, 2019. The key line:
"I want 100% of my funds to be divided equally among my children Andy, Chaia, Larry Jr., Chance & Cannon."
Shawn King's name is not in it. They had been married 22 years.
Two months before he wrote it, he filed for divorce. The divorce was never finalized. He died on January 23, 2021, at 87.
His son Larry King Jr. took the note to court and asked to run the estate.
Shawn went to court too. She said the note had "no legal effect whatsoever." A 2015 will named her executor and made her sole trustee of the family trust.
Then she listed the secret account. Gifts to Larry Jr. from 2013 to 2018, she said, made without her knowledge. She wants some or all of that money back.
In the video below, you see the will with 20% crossed out and 100% written over it. Then Larry King, in his last TV interview, says why the marriage fell apart. "From child rearing to religion, we didn't get along. She's 26 years younger than me."
Who should get the money: the children named in the note, or the wife of 22 years he never finished divorcing?
Family should never be forcefully separated.
Why was his body moved to another country he had no ties to and why was the grave unmarked?
#CaseyKasem RIP
Casey Kasem’s fortune was estimated at up to $100 million. His wife threw a pound of raw hamburger meat at his daughter. Then she took his body to Norway.
He was the voice of Shaggy and the host of American Top 40.
In the video below, his wife and his daughter both speak. Listen to why each one blames the other for his death.
In 2014, with dementia, he disappeared. His wife Jean had moved him from a rehab facility in California to a friend’s home in Washington state.
His daughter Kerri showed up with a court order and an ambulance. That’s when the meat flew.
Jean’s explanation: “In the name of King David, I threw a piece of raw meat into the street in exchange for my husband to the wild rabid dogs.”
Two weeks later he was dead. Hospital records showed septic shock and a stage three ulcer on his back.
Then his body disappeared. Jean took it to Montreal, then to Norway. He was buried in an unmarked grave in Oslo. His children said they knew of no connection to Norway.
The case for Jean. She says she moved him to protect him. She says his children forced him into a hospital, where he was taken off life support. When they sued her, she sued them back.
Kerri: “The only thing she ever wanted from my dad is money.”
Jean: “It was always all about the money.”
Here’s the lesson. If you don’t put in writing who makes decisions for you when you can’t, the people fighting over your money will.
$100 million. Two sides. Same accusation. Who do you believe?
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Entitlement program? share.google/S4Qsq0YWlYqDwQ7…
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Recommended Reading for Domestic Violence Awareness Month!
Also strongly recommend @dallasnews 5-part series about Gary Alton Matthews Jr., with the focus on how @TexasDFPS handled it and initially concluded that he was not the biological father of Nadia’s daughter. Despite him being the father. Another lady in New Orleans astutely asked Matthews all the right questions: like who he was paying and whether he substituted someone else’s DNA as his own.
*Note especially that he claimed he was in Africa (why?) despite him being in his North Texas townhome and his threats toward that lady, including falsely claiming that she was “harassing and defaming him” while threatening to call the police on her, alleging he was not the father of her child either yet simultaneously threatening to seek full custody of her, “not his” daughter.
Even more interesting is the fact that Texas collects the most money of all the states while the mothers are forced to wait and litigate, sometimes for years, to receive it.
Good job, @dallasnews. Minus the fact that you did a piece on @BukekileD’s Indibano Art exhibit in 2026. Because Buke Dube has made the same threats to a daughter that placed a welfare call for her Dad in 2021 and also uses deception and fraud by misrepresenting her ALFs as licensed and billing @MedicareGov for services never rendered.
And APS is under the @TexasDFPS umbrella and has already proven how corrupt it is in Dallas by taking facts re: abuse and exploitation of elderly before telling caller its agency lacks jurisdiction. And sending out Dallas County APS “investigators“ the day after said-call to accuse caller of information gleaned from caller the day prior.
And the ”doctor” publicly reprimanded below for failing to provide adequate care and in a manner that endangers the public‘s welfare is Buke’s chosen doctor for her @nhresidentcare and Greenfield homes — because let’s be real — what legitimate hospital/nursing home/care home/agency would hire him given his track-record of causing 2 deaths in 2 years because of his incompetency.
And how else is he going to make money? And how is he an in house doctor from 600 miles away? And why would Buke violate her victim’ right by changing her victims’ PCPs singlehandedly and without familial-consent.
And for the love of Lewis — she owns a medical staffing company!
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Found it! This is the agreed order serving as a public reprimand between Samuel Tyson and The Texas Licensing Medical Board.
August 8, 1997.
Samuel Tyson was single handedly chosen by Buke Dube to serve as my Dad’s doctor, disregarding that he saw the same PCP for over 15 years and who was still his PCP on paper upon entry. Fraud ensued.
@BukekileD @DallasPD
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The most expensive word in a fiduciary engagement is "informal."
Informal accountings. Informal approvals. Informal distributions.
Each one saves time in the moment and creates risk later. A clean record is slower and cheaper than a contested one.
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Hospitals discharging elderly patients by ordering them an UberX to the curb is the darkest manifestation of corporate cost-cutting in America.
My buddy was picking up his wife from outpatient surgery last Tuesday when he saw an 81-year-old woman sitting in a hospital wheelchair outside the main sliding doors.
She was clutching a plastic bag of discharge paperwork, wearing a hospital wristband, visibly groggy from anesthesia, and shivering in a thin sweater.
A silver Hyundai pulled up to the loading zone. A confused 22-year-old kid got out with his phone in hand: "Are you... Eleanor?"
The hospital had eliminated their patient transport vans six months ago to trim operational overhead. Their new standard operating procedure for patients without immediate family rides is to order a commercial rideshare on the hospital’s corporate account.
They rolled a medicated, fragile elderly woman out to the curb and handed her off to a gig-economy driver making $11 on a trip who has zero medical training, zero liability protection, and no idea she just came out of sedation.
If she collapses in that backseat, an untrained college kid is suddenly responsible for an active medical crisis on the highway.
We pay tens of thousands of dollars for hospital stays, and the institution won't even invest in an orderly to make sure a grandmother gets safely over her own threshold.
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The people turning “boomer” into a slur and treating the elderly like a disposable financial burden are revealing exactly who they are. Those same generations paid into the system for decades so their own parents could retire. You can argue taxes and reform. You cannot strip people of their humanity because they’ve become inconvenient. The ones who do that usually end up the lonely, toothless wreck in a stained wife beater, high on the dope they swear isn’t a problem, wondering why no one gives a shit. They won’t. Selfish people don’t get a soft landing. Decency isn’t a line item.
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Replying to @melisandrePro
I don’t think so though perhaps how you dealt with that situation may have been. But that doesn’t matter. It’s not your fault.
What you describe is precisely why the approach to protection of older persons doesn’t work, imho.
She lacked the capacity to stand up for herself because of fear and control. Yes, we become part of that abuse cycle and often targeted in many ways for staying there and providing support and love.
Understanding the use of control mechanisms in elder abuse can bring g dignity and autonomy back to older persons. Often they are not cooperating because they’re “defending” their abuser, they are simply surviving in their home and that takes complex decision-making.
#Ageism #Aging #ProtectOurParents
DYK: #Ageism is a recognized risk factor for #ElderAbuse? When we dismiss, stereotype, or overlook older adults, we create a culture that tolerates abuse and ignores the warning signs.
Reframe the conversation about #Aging and #ElderAbuse: ncea.usc.edu/publications/
Large payments may attract fraudsters:
CMS says it doesn't have the statutory authority to make this kind of change. But it could if directed to do so by Congress. 👀
#Medicare #HHS #Aging #Hispice #ProtectOurParents
gao.gov/blog/medicares-hospi…
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Nine years of working night shifts in hospice care taught me something I’ll never forget:
People nearing the end of their lives rarely ask for the things you’d expect.
Sometimes, they don’t ask for God. They don’t ask for miracles. Sometimes, they ask for something so small it breaks your heart.
Room 4 belonged to an 86-year-old man named Walter. He had lung cancer. His wife, Dorothy, had died in 2019, and he hadn’t had a single visitor in eleven days.
One night, around 2 a.m., he waved me over.
“Are you married?” he asked.
“No,” I told him.
He nodded slowly. “Then you probably don’t wear perfume.”
I smiled and told him I had some in my locker.
“What kind?”
“Nothing fancy. Just something cheap from the drugstore.”
He shook his head.
“Dorothy wore White Shoulders. Every night before bed. Not for church. For bed.”
He chuckled, but the laughter quickly turned into a coughing fit. When he finally caught his breath, he looked at the ceiling and said something I still think about.
“I used to tell her she was wasting it on me. She’d say, ‘The good stuff isn't for God. It’s for whoever has to look at you in the morning.’”
Then he smiled.
Not the polite smile people give strangers. The kind that belongs to someone remembering the best years of his life.
I finished my shift at seven that morning, but I couldn’t stop thinking about Dorothy.
So I drove to three different pharmacies until I finally found a bottle of White Shoulders. It was tucked on the bottom shelf, behind the nail polish remover.
$18.99.
That evening, on my night off, I went back to the hospice.
Walter was asleep.
I didn’t wake him. I sprayed a little perfume on the inside of his pillowcase, then sprayed a washcloth and gently folded it across his chest.
I sat beside him for a while.
He never opened his eyes.
But slowly, almost painfully slowly, his hand rose from the blanket. He reached for the washcloth and rested his palm flat against it.
Then he held it there.
His breathing softened. His face relaxed. For the first time in days, the tension seemed to leave his body.
I've watched many people die over the years. Nurses learn to recognize the moments when someone stops struggling against what is coming.
That night, I watched Walter settle into a memory that was bigger than the room he was lying in.
Maybe he was remembering Dorothy getting ready for bed. Maybe he was remembering the way she smelled when she climbed beside him. Maybe, for a few precious minutes, he wasn't an 86-year-old man dying alone.
Maybe he was simply a husband lying next to his wife again.
Walter passed away on Thursday morning.
Nobody came to collect his belongings.
His room was cleaned, his bed was remade, and eventually another patient moved in. The world kept going, as it always does.
But I never forgot him.
People think hospice care is about managing pain, administering medication, and making someone comfortable during their final days.
And yes, it is.
But sometimes, comfort isn't a medication.
Sometimes, it's a familiar song.
A voice you haven't heard in years.
A hand holding yours when the room goes quiet.
Or the smell of the person you loved most in the world.
We spend our entire lives building what we call home. We fill it with furniture, photographs, clothes, and all the ordinary things we barely notice until they're gone.
But when everything else is stripped away, home can become something incredibly small.
A familiar scent.
A remembered touch.
A voice saying your name.
Sometimes, home is the person you keep expecting to find beside you when you wake up.
And sometimes, when you can't bring that person back, the kindest thing another human being can do is help you remember them one last time.
I've worked nine years of night shifts in hospice care.
If there's one thing I've learned, it's this:
At the end of life, people don't always need someone to save them. Sometimes, they just need someone to remind them that they were loved.
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Nine years of working night shifts in hospice care taught me something I’ll never forget:
People nearing the end of their lives rarely ask for the things you’d expect.
Sometimes, they don’t ask for God. They don’t ask for miracles. Sometimes, they ask for something so small it breaks your heart.
Room 4 belonged to an 86-year-old man named Walter. He had lung cancer. His wife, Dorothy, had died in 2019, and he hadn’t had a single visitor in eleven days.
One night, around 2 a.m., he waved me over.
“Are you married?” he asked.
“No,” I told him.
He nodded slowly. “Then you probably don’t wear perfume.”
I smiled and told him I had some in my locker.
“What kind?”
“Nothing fancy. Just something cheap from the drugstore.”
He shook his head.
“Dorothy wore White Shoulders. Every night before bed. Not for church. For bed.”
He chuckled, but the laughter quickly turned into a coughing fit. When he finally caught his breath, he looked at the ceiling and said something I still think about.
“I used to tell her she was wasting it on me. She’d say, ‘The good stuff isn't for God. It’s for whoever has to look at you in the morning.’”
Then he smiled.
Not the polite smile people give strangers. The kind that belongs to someone remembering the best years of his life.
I finished my shift at seven that morning, but I couldn’t stop thinking about Dorothy.
So I drove to three different pharmacies until I finally found a bottle of White Shoulders. It was tucked on the bottom shelf, behind the nail polish remover.
$18.99.
That evening, on my night off, I went back to the hospice.
Walter was asleep.
I didn’t wake him. I sprayed a little perfume on the inside of his pillowcase, then sprayed a washcloth and gently folded it across his chest.
I sat beside him for a while.
He never opened his eyes.
But slowly, almost painfully slowly, his hand rose from the blanket. He reached for the washcloth and rested his palm flat against it.
Then he held it there.
His breathing softened. His face relaxed. For the first time in days, the tension seemed to leave his body.
I've watched many people die over the years. Nurses learn to recognize the moments when someone stops struggling against what is coming.
That night, I watched Walter settle into a memory that was bigger than the room he was lying in.
Maybe he was remembering Dorothy getting ready for bed. Maybe he was remembering the way she smelled when she climbed beside him. Maybe, for a few precious minutes, he wasn't an 86-year-old man dying alone.
Maybe he was simply a husband lying next to his wife again.
Walter passed away on Thursday morning.
Nobody came to collect his belongings.
His room was cleaned, his bed was remade, and eventually another patient moved in. The world kept going, as it always does.
But I never forgot him.
People think hospice care is about managing pain, administering medication, and making someone comfortable during their final days.
And yes, it is.
But sometimes, comfort isn't a medication.
Sometimes, it's a familiar song.
A voice you haven't heard in years.
A hand holding yours when the room goes quiet.
Or the smell of the person you loved most in the world.
We spend our entire lives building what we call home. We fill it with furniture, photographs, clothes, and all the ordinary things we barely notice until they're gone.
But when everything else is stripped away, home can become something incredibly small.
A familiar scent.
A remembered touch.
A voice saying your name.
Sometimes, home is the person you keep expecting to find beside you when you wake up.
And sometimes, when you can't bring that person back, the kindest thing another human being can do is help you remember them one last time.
I've worked nine years of night shifts in hospice care.
If there's one thing I've learned, it's this:
At the end of life, people don't always need someone to save them. Sometimes, they just need someone to remind them that they were loved.
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Mom makes them money. Her estate makes them money. I remove someone stealing from her to a institution who will fight me so they can make money.
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Replying to @IslandG68443406 @ProtectParents
I can only do this myself if I have legal authority as a POA or Guardian of Mom. Since there is not POA but now a Guardianship by the PT I must apply for Guardianship. Which is fine. Cause that makes me accountable to the court for her finances and her health. Protects me.
My work on elder financial exploitation has led me to look more closely at decisions about end-of-life care.
Families may already be concerned about someone controlling an older person’s money, limiting contact, or speaking for them. When that same person begins directing care, those concerns need to be examined as part of the care decision.
Who is giving information to the doctors? Can the older person speak privately with someone they trust? Does anyone influencing the decision stand to benefit financially?
I’m beginning a Protect Our Parents™ series called Hospice: Behind the Benefit. These first two graphics look at financial exploitation through care decisions and the business relationships around hospice.
Hospice can provide needed comfort and support. Families also need to understand who is arranging the care, what the person has agreed to, and whether the care being delivered follows their needs and wishes.
@melisandrePro @chicjustice @NAPPJustice
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