This is a worldly advice. He is spending so much time on social media and absorbing worldly advice. It should not be coming from the pulpit. There is nothing wrong with being nice. Niceness is not a defect in character. People taking advantage of people's kindness is a worldly behaviour and advising people in church to stop being kind is not Christianly. He should be telling the women in his church to be grateful for kindnesses and be kind themselve. He should also teach them to reciprocate kind gestures, while teaching them the folly of ingratitude. He should teach the men to be kind and if anyone should take them for granted for being kind, they should dust their feet off that person. We can't be bringing worldly advice into the church. Why are Pastors afraid to advise women snd tell them the truth? If you frame kindness as niceness just to pass a worldly message, you're deceiving yourself. It is one and the same thing. Potato Potahto. Please don't tell me he said "dont be nice" not "don't be kind." We all know they mean he same thing. The resulting consequences would be a lack of kindness. You don't tell people not to be nice and still expect them to be kind. Kindness means to be considerate of others. Niceness means to be courteous and pleasant. What is the difference? You cannot put a piece of live coal on a child's palm and ask him to carry it with care. - Chinua Achebe And be ye kind one to another, and tenderhearted. - Eph 4:32