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Appreciation goes both ways in a FLR. Too often subs thank their dommes but dommes don't thank their subs. There's many ways to show appreciation for him without unlocking him. Every sub in chastity wants to be unlocked. But that's for special occasions. Make him feel appreciated while locked just by being nicer, calling him a good boy, or even take him out for dinner. Make it romantic, intimate, fun or playful. Make him feel all the reasons why he is submissive to you in the first place. Your time and attention are things he craves. Your body maybe be his privilege, but when allowed, is also his playground. Make it sexy! There's so many ways to appreciate him, and at the end of the day, he still remained locked, more frustrated than ever, but most importantly, he feels loved, seen, and appreciated. It reminds him why he belongs to you. #FLR

This article is exclusive to my substack! Locktober has only one rule, no unlocking ( except for hygiene)! It’s a month designed to be without mercy. He stayed locked! Period. This means you have to be appreciative of how hard this journey will be for him. Especially if it’s his first Locktober, or he hasn’t done month long stints before. It’s very important to be sure that his body is used to the chastity cage before attempting Locktober. The cage should fit properly, and he should be able to sleep all night and handle nightly erections without discomfort. He should be able to go all day and carry out his daily activities without chafing or discomfort of the cage falling forward. A chastity strap can be helpful here. However, most importantly, he’s going to need support from you during Locktober. Chastity is an emotion enhancer, so he’s going to feel the ups and downs of life much more sensitively. So if he feels unappreciated or neglected, he feels it twice as hard. The same is true for when he does feel appreciate and seen. He feels that twice as hard too, which makes him realize just how much chastity is worth it, and how much more he appreciates you keeping him locked. Remember it’s not the chastity cage that’s on his mind 24/7, it’s you. He wants you far more than he wants to be unlocked. So the first thing you can do to appreciate him without unlocking him is simply expressing gratitude to him for staying locked for you. Tell him you understand the sacrifice he’s making and that you love knowing he’s locked. Let him know that he’s on your mind too. When he feels like his chastity has meaning and purpose beyond just being denied, it makes him feel purpose and belonging. The second thing you can do is cuddle! Make time to cuddle, curl up and watch a movie together. The closeness you share means a lot to him, especially being locked. Your leg over his is something he cherishes. It’s the little things that really matter when locked, and cuddling ranks extremely high on making him feel connected to you. The third thing you can do is spend time with him. Take him out for dinner or make him dinner. Bond with him over a meal, be flirty and tease, acknowledge that he’s locked. Not that he needs reminding, but the fact that you acknowledge it tells him you care and that it’s not just on his mind, but also yours. The fourth thing you can do is message him throughout the day. Make no mistake, he is always thinking about you. You are never off his mind. He wants to be messaging you every second of the day if he could, but he’s either busy with work, or doesn’t want to be annoying. So if you decide to message him it will light up his day and make him feel appreciated. To read the other 4 ways to appreciate him please subscribe to my Substack! practicalflr.substack.com/p/…

Once he can spend a full night in chastity, everything changes. It means he can now sleep caged. No more excuses. No more inconsistencies. No more doubts. It gives her peace of mind, and more control. It's a good milestone to reach in a #FLR.

When In Doubt .... Ruin Him! When a FLR is first starting out, it can take a bit of time to adjust to a sex life with a D/s dynamic. Both partners have their own unique struggles to go through, and so there's no need to rush anything. Whatever kinks you decide to partake in and make a part of your dynamic, I think it's safe to say the general theme in a FLR is tease and denial .... for him. I think the benefits of a well teased and denied sub speak for themselves. When he is constantly in craving, and aching, he is simply more attentive, and more obedient. It's like magic, almost. However, many Domme's often feel guilty when they don't give in and let him cum. His begging, and whimpering often is just too cute to not let him have it. So rather than feel guilty, let him have it... but with a condition. Ruin his orgasm. This can actually be a huge factor within the D/s dynamic, because ultimately she controls all his releases, and how he has them. Giving her the ultimate choice, each and every time. Especially if he's locked in chastity, and restrained when unlocked, so he never gets access to his own cock. All he knows is her touch, and only her touch. He's completely at her mercy. So when it's time for him to have a release, but she doesn't really want him to have a full orgasm, because she knows it drains all his passion from him. All that submission and obedience becomes dulled for a day or two until it builds back up... This is not ideal to happen regularly in a FLR. So a ruined orgasm, grants both, his release, and keeps his frustration levels high. He gets drained, but remains perfectly obedient. Win win! To ruin his orgasm, can be a bit of an art at first. She must learn the tell of his body as she stimulates him, and monitor his breathing. Recognizing when his breath quickens and his body starts to convulse, she can expertly time it. If she times it correctly, his cum will only, very slowly, dribble out of his penis. There should not be any spurts! If there's even a single spurt, it mean's he's getting pleasure from it. The idea of a ruined orgasm, is to give him a release, but not pleasure. She can then lose any guilt, because she knows he had a release. As long as he doesn't spurt, he will remain fully frustrated, as if he didn't cum at all. Which is hugely beneficial for her. So whenever she is in doubt, a ruined orgasm is the way to go. Bonus: The perfect way to train him to clean up his cum, is after ruined orgasms. He will still be submissive enough to lick it up without any hesitations. Create the #FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you!

Subs remember this important point. When she asks you to decide something, anything, make the decision. Don't reverse the power exchange happening. Don't reverse the question back to " well what would you like?" She asked you to decide. You're topping from the bottom. She wants you to decide. If she wanted to decide she wouldn't have given it to you. Understand that her decision is to let you decide. Most relationships don't understand this concept in the first place. Which is exactly why you're in a #FLR.

Be Strict! Dominance works best when she is strict about it. Being strict gives her a commanding presence. He can feel her attitude just by looking at her. When she is strict, everything she does is noticed by him, because everything she does matters. Her body language matters, her words matter, her attitude matters. Because he knows that she will enforce her rules if he doesn't pay attention. Being strict does not necessarily mean, being mean. She can be lovingly strict, and still have no mercy. The most wonderful thing in a FLR is that she never has to settle for less than she wants from him. this doesn't just apply to being sexual. It applies to domestic chores, errands, and the way he worships her. She gets to direct him on every level, and be strict about it. Body worship for example, can be done with her rules in place. He can only worship certain areas at a time. Perhaps she says feet only for a bit, then maybe it's massage only, hands only, tongue only.... She decides every aspect of the worship that takes place, and for how long. Domestic chores, are to be done to her standards. He must meet her expectations. The house should be as clean as she expects it to be. No half assing it, no sweeping things under the rug. She will check. As long as she is strict, he will strive to meet her expectations, or face the consequences. The consequences can take many shapes and forms. They can be having to re-do chores, or being assigned more chores. It doesn't have to be painful involving a pain or a whip, but that is also an option she can opt for, if she feels the need, and wants that type of training in her FLR. She can also be strict about his pleasure. She can take it away as she sees fit. Not allow him access to her pussy. One of the worst punishments for a submissive, is being denied access to her body. Not even allowed to see her naked. A couple of days of that, and he will be very sorry. He craves her, and being allowed access to her is something he will always strive for. So when she is strict, he knows the stakes, he knows what she may do, and it's just not worth it. Her attitude really sets the tone here. A no non-sense approach that says, you will submit to me, the way I want you to submit to me, or you will face severe consequences until you do. He will quickly start conforming to her rules and obeying her without any more hesitations. Her attitude, and strictness in this manner will arouse him, but also bring him deeper into obedience. Create the #FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you!

Keeping Him Aroused If you're into chastity in your FLR, then it's important to understand the psychological and physiological aspects the submissive goes through while locked. The first few days in chastity, are a slow build up phase, he becomes more and more sensual. After 3 days locked, he's going to be a cuddle bug. He doesn't necessarily want out of the cage yet. He's enjoying the chastity, and as each passing day goes by, her feminine beauty becomes more and more attractive. In other words, his desire to serve and worship her increases exponentially with each passing day. All he can think about is pleasing her and obeying her. This will last for about a week to 10 days. Around day 10 his frustration begins to kick into overdrive. He starts thinking more about when he will be released, so he will be on extra good behavior, but also perhaps becoming a little bit desperate, and may beg for a release. If no unlock occurs for teasing, over the next few days, his frustration will reach a peak. Around the 3 week period, and this can different for each person, without an unlock, and without release, his arousal will begin to wane. However, that doesn't mean he's less horny, it just simply means his body is adjusting to the cage. His night time erections will lessen and help him sleep better. There will be less leaking, and less straining in his cage, as his penis has accepted it's tiny prison. What's interesting however, is that this waning only occurs if he is locked and left denied, without her paying any attention to his penis. After about a month, he will reach a plateau, and he will find stability in this plateau, where the cage simply becomes a part of his body. When the cage gets removed after being locked for so long, he will feel strangely naked and vulnerable without it locked on. Which she can use to her full advantage, to tease him, and make him beg to be locked back up. It's always best to make his submission his idea through various domination techniques. Does he want to eat her out, or be unlocked? His choice will usually be to eat her out, because he knows it's what she wants. It's the confidence of dominance at work. However, once he reaches that plateau of being locked for 5 weeks, without an unlock or teasing, he will remain in a sensual state, and if he's into feminization, panties or girly clothes will help calm his frustration because it brings greater awareness to his entire body, rather than just his cage. This is beneficial because it keeps him focused on obedience, instead of release. However, he is not aching for release. His balls are not as blue as they could be. While it can be ideal for many FLR's to keep him on the plateau, some Dommes are more interested in keeping this subs at their most frustrated, at all times. Aching blue balls, and constantly desperate for a release from the cage. That's where regular teasing comes in. Teasing can take many forms, and I'm not going to go through in this article. But regularly edging him, every day or couple of days, will go a long way to keeping him very horny, and he will ache so much he will be willing to do anything for her. And agree to anything she might want him to agree to. Naturally, she could use this method of dominance for abuse. It's very easy to abuse a submissive man, because many of them won't speak out when they should. So this is where the Domme's responsibility is of paramount importance in maintaining trust and integrity in the FLR. A good Domme will always get what she wants, but she will also always make sure that her sub is comfortable with it first. If she does that correctly, he will be her's forever. Her submissive, her slave, her pet, her cuck, whatever it is she wants him to be. He will love her for it. Most importantly, he will ache for her, 24/7, since she understands his psychology so well, that she can keep his body and mind, desiring and obeying her without mercy. He learns the definition of true submission. Create the #FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you!

The Power of Women "When she honors the masculine within him, it can transform boys into men very quickly. More importantly, she can transform them into men that she wants in her life. Men she can trust. Men who listen to her. Men who serve her." #FLR

Ladies, if you don't want locktober to end... Rather than unlock him at the end of locktober make him think he's going to be unlocked, relax and get comfortable and have him worship your feet. Nothing else! After 15 minutes of pure foot worship, while he's still licking them, tell him he'll be participating in NO-vember too! This will drive his desperation into high gear. Then have him orally service you. Best orgasm of the year + another month of frustration for him. It's a win win. #FLR

Women Need Men The reason there is an epidemic of single people and loneliness in the world is because the natural power exchange has been perverted and distorted into the idea of equality. Equal exchange of power... It doesn't work, and people prefer to be single than deal with the clashing that causes. Equality is a relationship destroyer when its defined in terms of allocation of power. A relationship flows much better and easier, when the flow of power is respected when based on the natural roles of each partner. Sadly, most people in the world, don't even know their own role, or aren't given the opportunity to explore it. That's why we have the singleness epidemic we have today. The flow of power has been thrown out and replaced with the idea of 50/50 equality, and as long as this paradigm exists, unhealthy relationships will continue to be the norm. That's why I write about #FLR. It's a much needed solution, in helping women and men remember their roles and embrace the naturally occurring power exchange rather than deny it exists. books2read.com/The-Submissiv… Women need men to rediscover the innate sense of chivalry within them, and act on it rather than suppress it. Women need men to regain self control and put her first. Women need men to be caring protectors, as they all know they should be. Women need men to build their supportive mindset to become the providers they're born to be. Women need men to heal their wounded masculinity. Women need men to stop being afraid of emotions. Women need men to treat them like human beings. Women need men to build a life with. Lets stop pretending that being single and being alone, is trendy, normal, or empowering. This is the lie we are all telling ourselves to justify the excuse of not building a life with someone. It's the lie we tell ourselves so we don't hold ourselves accountable for our own shitty circumstances. Lets be honest with ourselves and realize that being single is the easy way out. What are we here for, if not each other? Do you really want to go to your grave with only memories of how comfy the couch was because you didn't have to share it with someone? Stop lying to yourself. Stop the lie, that women don't need men, or men don't need women. More importantly, men, stop sitting around endlessly scrolling social media, getting off to femdom videos, while using your own tears as lubrication because you can't find a partner to explore with. Women need you to step up. You need you to step up. Let this post serve as a reminder, a warning, that your life is passing you by, and there's a woman somewhere out there, wishing, waiting, and losing hope every day, that a man will recognize her and value her. She's waiting for you to value yourself enough to value her. The journey to her is waiting for you.

If submission wasn't natural for men, it wouldn't feel so good. Yet the moment a woman takes control, the body says yes! More of this! The more they surrender, the better they feel. It's not just a fleeting feeling either. It's an actual state of being they can learn to live in. Which is why a #FLR is the way relationships were meant to be.

So few men realize that chastity might actually be the key to a better life. It solves: depression low libido low motivation low energy boosts creativity boosts endurance reduces stress keeps the nervous system healthy makes erections stronger increases risk tolerance #FLR

10 Benefits of a FLR A Female led relationship(#FLR) has an incredible amount of benefits that conventional relationship struggle to realize. 1. There is an energy flow between partners. This energy flow, allows energy to flow in agreement between them, that she gets the final say. This results automatically in less arguing, and even no arguing at all. This promotes healthier communication, rather than the push and pull of energy that results in communication breakdown and misunderstanding. 2. Trust is deeper and more complete. When there is an agreement that she gets the final say in decision, a level of trust develops. He learns to trust in her judgement, and as a result of that, she is free to open up to him in ways that she was once more reserved about. When she knows she had the freedom to make decisions, she allows him into the more personal and intimate aspects of her life. It's incredibly bonding, and the relationship is built on this foundation of trust. 3. Being vulnerable is a strength. When there's a strong foundation of trust, it also means that both partners can be seen emotionally naked. There's nothing to hide, and no where to run. It's a total acceptance of each other, and who they are. It enables both partners to express who they are at their cores, and be embraced for it. 4. Strong intimacy. Because of being able to be vulnerable, intimacy is enhanced to levels not seen in most conventional relationships. There's a comfort with each other that allows for complete relaxation. 5. More passion. With strong intimacy, comes more passion for each other. The desire to be there for each other and the attraction they feel sparks more passion and that leads to a stronger bond, allowing the relationship to explore new levels and commitment. 6. More sex. Women like to feel desired, and when he is passionate about her, she feels that, which makes her arousal far easier. Sex doesn't always include intercourse, but more sex will naturally occur when she's in the mood for it. 7. Power Exchange. With more sex occurring, and an agreement that she makes the final decisions, she can also dictate the sex life. This sets up the possibility of a D/s dynamic that is created by her. A Dominant / submissive dynamic can take many forms in a FLR, and this is where it gets fun and creative as it allows both partners to explore their sexuality with each other, while maintaining trust in each other. 8. Empowering each other. Not only does it create a harmonic and deep bonding relationship with each other, but it also opens the possibility of empowering each other. As she grows in dominance, she will also grow in confidence. As he grows in submission, he will also want to improve himself for her. So it creates an environment where both partners can truly help each other flourish individually, and as a couple. 9. It's a whole lot of fun. Conventional relationships can get boring fast. In a FLR, there's a million ways to get creative and try new things. It never gets boring, and can be quite thrilling and exciting at times. 10. Be who you are. This may be the most important one on the list. A FLR allows you to be who you are with a partner. So many conventional relationships are not in alignment with who they are. People settle for less and live a mediocre life thinking they can't do better. A FLR says no to this, and allows both partners to live in the complete fulfillment of who they are, and that is liberating. Life takes on a whole new dimension when you are fully able to express and be accepted for who you are. Want to create the FLR of your dreams, and support me as an author? Then check out the Practical FLR book series here: books2read.com/b/PracticalFL…

Unlock him, then edge him very slowly, get him just to the brink of no return, make him really crave the sweet release of orgasm. Then slowly stop and let him simmer down. Re-lock him. Now he will give the best oral he can give. Now he can give you the orgasm he's denied. #FLR

Can we just stand back for a moment and look at the simplicity of a #FLR? It boils down to one simple rule. She controls the sex life. He refrains except when she gives permission. That's it. Imagine how many problems this would solve in relationships throughout the world. Just look at how many relationships have problems because they don't do this. The struggle for power. The total lack of actual communication. The wrong type of control. All solved with a #FLR. And not just solved, but an infinitely better way of life too.

The biggest thing that chaste men miss, isn't orgasm. It's stroking. Being allowed to stroke after a while in chastity feels incredible for them. This is why it's useful to tie his hands behind his back when unlocking. This way the only stroking he gets is determined by her.

Female orgasms are far more valuable than male ones. This is evident in our biology. When we watch what happens to a man post orgasm, his body is drained, and he gets tired, and often loses all sexual appetite. He may not even want to be touched. He loses interest in cuddling, romance and intimacy. He may even feel slightly depressed, like cumming was a promise that didn't deliver. Sure it felt good for a few moments, and then just ike that, that euphoric feeling disappears, and he's snapped back to reality. Orgasm didn't benefit him. It actually made him worse off than before he started. Waiting for his body to recharge to get back to that point where he feels alive with passion again. He also loses his desire to take risks, and also enters sub drop for a time. What good has come from his orgasm? Female orgasm on the other hand.... Is a completely different story. Her orgasm, immediately relieves her of all stress. It's one of the best things a woman can do for stress relief. Not only that, but orgasm especially from oral, actually charges her up, making her feel more alive. A sense of fulfillment comes with it, A relaxed euphoria follows, that can sometimes last the entire next day. Her orgasm helps to balance her emotions, while also filling her with more confidence, in her body, and in life. Her orgasms can be used as a way of creating motivation and ambition. The more often she orgasms, the more empowered, and happy, her life will be. That's why it's the goal of submissive men to make her happy, because when she's happy, he's happy. Well coincidentally, or perhaps, by design, our natural biology compliment each other. Men who are denied orgasms, tend to give up their orgasms to the women in their lives. Almost as if that's the natural order of things. As if that's how it was always meant to be. Because men experience the same euphoria that women do, when they're kept in denial, and under her authority. Male orgasms, are meant to be given up for women. That's why she gets so horny when she has him locked in chastity, it's an actual exchange of power. She's picking up his excess sexual energy, and feeling horny like him. It's also why when he makes her orgasm, he enjoy and feels, her pleasure, almost as much as she does. Because he's in subspace, in surrender, giving his energy up for her. Male orgasms, really have no benefit for him or her. That's why he can never think of a good reason to be let out of chastity. Because there isn't one! He's meant to serve her. That's why #FLR's are an amazing way to live, because it's in natural harmony with each other, the way nature intended. Create the FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series! books2read.com/b/PracticalFL… Also, it's always appreciated when you retweet. It helps spread the word far and wide that FLR's are an amazing way to live. So please retweet! Thank you for reading!

3 Reasons Why You Should Have Intercourse in a #FLR " When he’s locked in chastity all the time and denied intercourse for long periods of time his emotions run high in need of reaching the “ promised land” between her legs. He craves her, he needs to feel her. So intercourse isn’t just about passion, it’s about fulfilling his submissive needs. Intercourse may become more rare, but every once in a while it can be allowed as a reminder of how beautiful it is and enhance his submissive desire for her 100 fold." To read the whole article click the link in the post below!

It's not about duration! Locking him in chastity isn't about how long he is locked. Yes, its great to lock him for months at a time, or even make it permanent... But it's really not about that. It's about how hard it is for him! 24 hours in his cage, teased mercilessly is actually far more difficult for him to endure than two weeks in the cage, but hardly teased at all. The cage becomes comfortable for him to wear, and while he still may be denied and kept in that submissive state, he is not as frustrated as he should be! Chastity should not be easy for him. She should tease him often, in a variety of ways, and she should tie him up for an edging session as often as possible, to really get him going, only to deny and lock him back up. This will make him ache, his balls will hurt, and the chastity cage will be felt so much more dramatically. This is real chastity. His balls should ache so much that he can't sleep. That he is so desperate to come out of the cage that he is whimpering and she can see in his eyes that he is begging, since he's not allowed to beg, or ask to be let out. He suffers in silence, but she is keenly aware of his suffering. It makes ordering him to eat her out that much more rewarding, knowing he is suffering so much for her, and still, she gets to cum and he does not. Chastity is meant to be endured and suffered. Every week should feel like a year. He should crave a release from the cage, and be incredibly thankful when she does grant him time out. Even if its just for a cleaning, then back in. Or if he's lucky, a release. Since chastity is so hard to endure this way, a ruined orgasm, will completely own him. He won't know what to do with himself. Except serve her more passionately. That's his only course of action. To be a better slave. To make her life better. She will feel his effort to serve more, and she will finally feel like she really does own him to his core. She will finally feel like he belongs to her... because he does, and now they both feel it. That's the wonderful reality of male chastity, in a #FLR. #chastity #domme #femdom #submale #gfd #wlm #sex #bdsm #FLR