On gym attire: There is an innate fantasy women have that goes like this: I am super duper pretty and everyone notices and loves me for this, but also this attention and power come with zero further implications or downsides The fantasy is one thing, being frustrated it isn't reality is another Most girls grow out of this as part of normal development (and you should! it's not realistic), learning that large amounts of attention and affection from, say, your dad, are freely given ....but that same kind of attention from strangers comes with strings attached Posting bikini pics that get 10M likes means you have a lot of men saving them for...gross reasons Going to the gym wearing next to nothing is attention grabbing for a reason, and you don't get to decide whose attention it grabs or the nature of that attention It's a bit of a black pill, and you tend to (or, should) figure it out somewhere in your teens: strange men do not want to adore and dote on you for zero reason To be clear, negative attention can happen even when you aren't doing something specifically out of the ordinary Getting catcalled often happens in the most normal outfits - it's just the flip side of being young and pretty The issue is this has evolved into almost an ideology: rather than recognizing the reality that attention is a double-edged sword, there's an impulse to regulate the attention i.e. "You can only notice me in the ways I want" You become like the dog meme below, saying "No sexual thoughts, only attention" Unfortunately for its advocates, this line of thinking is waging war with reality itself