Benefits I’ve noticed after 1 year of attachment work: 1) I show up more as my authentic self. 90% less self-monitoring and self-managing. 2) I can completely let go and feel things deeply. Music, food, friendships etc. all have a glow to them they didn’t have before. 3) My relationships with my parents have vastly improved. I show up with zero resentment, and tons of gratitude. This change in perception shifts how they relate to me. Longer conversations. More depth. Way more love. 4) A sense of emotional mastery. Hard days where I would have spiraled into shame/blame/depression become… totally okay. The felt sense that I can handle almost anything. That I can always return to a secure base of connection, trust, and safety on demand. 5) Self-image has completely shifted. I used to have this internal model that I was flawed, broken, incomplete, not up to the tasks of life. Now, I feel like Bruce Wayne. Vast resources. Innately capable. Ready to fight against adversity and suffering from a place of near infinite wholeness. 6) A kind of social magnetism. Feels like people are drawn to me, and seek me out at work, in public, etc. I’m more open, available, and receptive to connection. My body language and expressions were closed off. Not anymore. 7) At ease with intimacy and with solitude. Can bounce between both without anxiety or worrying that the relationship is at risk. Intense flexibility and freedom. Wouldn’t have dreamed this was possible years ago. — There are a bunch more, but these feel most alive to me right now. This is the work, guys. It goes way beyond surface level improvements, self-development systems, or mindfulness meditation. It’s deep. It’s tender. Maybe the most challenging work you’ll ever do. But on the others side is liberation from almost everything that holds you back in your relationships, and sense of self. If you feel pulled towards this, send me a DM. We’ll walk through your attachment patterns and I’ll give you a tailored recovery plan. An inner transformation you’ve dreamed of is waiting. Here’s your invitation to claim it.

Someone was cooking fish with the door open in my building, and instead of being grossed out I noticed the arising, abiding, and passing away of all fishy phenomena and fell into a state of expansive bliss. 11/10 would recommend

I've had fruitful meditations on the 3 marks of existence recently: Anatta: no fixed "self" to be found. It's an empty concept. Dukkha: everything is unsatisfactory. Nothing scratches the itch fully. Anicca: everything arises and passes. 3 pairs of glasses to try on. Fun!

Reminder: The most beautiful gift of all is life itself. Cherish this moment. It is precious beyond measure.

Putting on a sweater in the cool morning shade. Taking it off in the heat of the sun. This is the way of the eternal Dao.

When letting go happens, it feels like this whole thing we call life is doing itself. The walks. The conversations. The meals. The routines. And instead of scrunching up our faces trying to control, coerce, and force life to fit into our ego’s fantasy, we can dive right in. Not passively spectate, but truly immerse and give ourselves to the experience of life. We can open up, and unfold into the miracle.

“If this is as good as it gets, it’s pretty nice.” - my Dad

A question I like to ask when relating to people: What is this person’s perceptual playground? Is it a vast park, filled with freedom and possibility? Or is it a narrow sandbox, with many rules? This helps shape the context. Nothing wrong with building sandcastles.

I honor thy Presence in me, oh Lord

As I continue to polish the lens of awareness, I notice that “ordinary” experiences become filled with unprecedented richness and wonder. Before, I wouldn’t have thought much of this moment. Now, I’m enthralled by the smells of wood and rain, the dancing of the branches in the wind, the sunlight glinting past the clouds. All arising, coming into view, and falling away. More sensory contact, and less inherent substance than before. The miracle is available for those with eyes to see 👀

Some light, right summer reading

Meditation at the airport hits different

“You are always welcome in the palace of simple treasures” —seen on the back of a man’s sweater while driving