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Your child can't see you until age 5, because the machinery that tells him you have a mind of your own has not grown yet. Before Theory of Mind fires, you are an elaborate banana that moves a lot and helps him. You cannot punish a child into growing it.
If every man would watch this video, the world would change overnight.
I figured out frame by observing women. About 10% of men know frame, and 90% of women. It comes to them naturally. Get into an argument with a woman and before you know it you're a villain and apologizing profusely. They are the ones who shit-test. They are the framed sex.
Frame is gaslighting. Masculine frame is resistance to manipulation by the frame of others. This video explains all the nuanced ways people exploit guilt and make you feel less in order to get you to do what they want.
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They will ALWAYS betray you. I've experienced it enough times now that it's become a requirement for friendship. Any guy afraid of his wife/gf just can't be trusted. Doesn't matter if you like the same stuff or whatever. Don't get close to them. There isn't a "them" there.
Imagine you're a woman. You know deep down you have crazy leverage powers against a man. Crazy ability to peer into his soul and devastate him with words.
To wrap him up in pain to make him do whatever you want. All women are aware of this power from an early age. My 12 year old knows this. Already has the ability.
Obviously any man who this works on instantly and completely is very unattractive. You would take pity on "the nice guy" immediately.
It's like he's completely oblivious to the real game that exists in women's heads. The pain he will face he will be shocked at and it'll break him. It's just an incorrect pairing. Like a prize fighting boxer going against a mentally retarded dwarf, and the dwarf thinking they can tango in a fight and easily survive.
"Yes I see myself as your equal. No you don't frighten me. We should get married."
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This is a common issue with the "sisterhood" in general. It's usually a crab bucket. Even when the women stay married, they mirror each other in how they treat their husbands. The most entitled woman often sets the tone for the rest of the crew.
Which is yet another reason guys shouldn't be friends with men who are henpecked by their wives. Not only do the dudes tend to have dull personalities (by nature of the psychological toll), and not only are they disloyal, but you risk having their wives' attitudes affecting your own.
Surround yourself with people whose relationships have the proper polarity dynamics - whose women LOVE their husbands and respect their leadership. These women will help build each other up and aid each other's marriages, because their sisterhood has been given a purpose beyond mere ego mirroring.
in a certain social circle of mine, divorces are happening like dominoes
one friend went first, then the second realized she too was married to a "toxic narcissistic abuser" and filed; then the third one realized she also was
that group of friends is on divorce #6 in the chain
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It is easier than ever to live a comfortable life and harder than ever to live a beautiful one.
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Imagine spending your whole life becoming an academic expert. Then a random guy online tells you that you are wrong about your own field. And he's right. But you can never admit that. Because it would mean admitting that your life was a lie. That is the dilemma of many academics.
Women are the workhorses of the tribe. Not men. Look at any ancestral culture and the women are the ones working. African women carrying loads on their heads. Eve in the Bible cast as "the helper." The men ran down the big game a few times a month, and the women gathered every single day. Gathering is the higher-volume labor, and it always has been.
That impulse never went anywhere. The receptionist, the dental hygienist, the executive assistant, the woman running the 9-to-5 that keeps an office alive. None of that is feminism. It is 100% female nature doing exactly what it was built to do, serving the territory through steady, high-volume support work. The drive to work was never the problem.
The problem is whose territory she's working for. She pours that energy into a corporate territory instead of yours. A stranger's empire gets her best hours, her loyalty, her output, and you get whatever is left over.
You can read accounts of Native tribes where the men flatly refused to carry loads or do anything menial. They sat like lions in the savannah while the pride did the work around them. Nobody called those women oppressed. The men held the frame, the women ran the day-to-day, and everyone understood the arrangement.
It's only in recent culture, where female sexual power has grown so large, that women work less than men. Go back three generations. Ask how hard your great-grandmother worked, from the moment she got up to the moment she went to bed, without stopping. A woman sitting idle in the home would have been absurd to her.
And spare me the "but they can't lift as much" objection. Menial labor doesn't require a max deadlift, and there are studies showing the female body is better built for carrying loads than the male body. The capacity was never in question.
Women work the most. They always have. They love to work. Just not for you.
The premise behind “trad wife” culture is a myth, an evolutionary psychologist has warned.
Dr Steve Stewart-Williams, an expert in the field of nature versus nurture, said that women have always worked, and the idea that historically they stayed at home raising the children and cooking was inaccurate.
🔗: telegraph.co.uk/news/2026/05…
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We've heard from the Christians on spanking. We've heard from the righteous libertarians and the non-aggression principle. Of course, nobody wants to ask if we're built to need violence.
Two of my favorite books are The Heart of Everything That Is, the story of the Sioux in the Black Hills, and the flight of the Nez Perce, the story of Chief Joseph. Both show American Indians at opposite poles. The Nez Perce used a third-party "whip man" to discipline their children. The Sioux instituted zero discipline even on the most egregious violations. Their tendency was to laugh when another was violated.
So many things in human ethology are fixed action patterns, tripped by switches we never installed and don't fully understand. Maybe violence is one of them. Maybe we're adapted to it in ways we can't yet see. Just because our justice systems make violence a universal crime, and libertarians land on the non-aggression axiom as their fundamental ethical principle, doesn't mean biology agrees.
Human anthropology shows three distinct strategies for moderating behavior in tribes: guilt, shame, and fear. Look at the cultures of the world and you can intuitively tell which is which. Some respond only to fear, some only to shame, some only to guilt. What if it's the same in children? What if some are wired so only a harder hand reaches them?
You could say the hard hand is just cruelty. But the Nez Perce were the non-violent, settled ones, and they still kept a whip man.
The human animal is complex. Depending on your breed, you might be a guilt-type, internally regulated by guilt at a certain stage of development, and you self-moderate. And there's variance of personality within breeds. Some kids are guilt-stricken, some are defiant. We see both strategies right through recorded history, and neither one is broken.
I spanked my first kid. She's very compliant. I didn't spank my second. She hasn't said a "yes" to me once since she's been born. My third I haven't spanked. He's only four, but he does everything I ask.
Shocking number of millennial and Gen Z parents spank their kids, study says: 'Necessary to raise a child properly' trib.al/zdAMS8o
Sports go way deeper than people realize. Women are not designed to be competitive, not in the way men are. Not even slightly adapted for it. Not even moderately. It's foreign to them. The competing sex is the T-gated dimorphic male.
The mass push for girls' sports is a form of modern indoctrination. The lesson that women should be competitive. That might be the fundamental sin.
It trickles down into suburban culture. Indoctrinated, competitive moms fill the schedule and make children's sports the territorial mission, something on the level of religion in its importance, its commitment, its faith.
Relationships with other families are defined by sports. Not by religion. Not by ethnicity. Sports.
Which makes sports more dangerous than anyone admits, for girls especially. It's definitely a contributor to the fertility crisis. Too busy competing, too busy driving, unable to handle more than one or two to fill the sports-excellence quota.
There is something so powerful about the way Russell Crowe acts here. It's a forgotten male art. The silent admission, "I don't really want to fucking do this. But I know it matters to you, so I'll do it. BUT you do it my way."
I have yet to meet a modern man who expresses this cleanly. They are deeply SHAMED if they don't overtly profess to like the conditions of their servitude. "Yes I love my kids activities and driving them around." "Yes I love date night, especially the candles." "Yes that's fine." "No, that's not a problem."
No, fuck that. Back up. Make some space. I'll come to you when I'm fucking ready.
There is almost no ROI in being a nice guy. It's a moral posture that achieves nothing, nor is it moral. The dick keeps the monsters at bay, including the lesser nature of his own family.
Russell Crowe loses his cool with fans waiting for autographs.
“Stay where you are, don’t f***ing push in on me. I’ll come to you! Give everybody space. As soon as somebody’s a d**k I’m gone.”
Source: Hush Magazine
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