@MerrilyThrough

Hoping to defuse the sex wars before my own children are old enough to get conscripted.

UK
Joined December 2025
Replying to @MerrilyThrough
A Not-Totally-Insane Theory on Cucks: open.substack.com/pub/merril…
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The unpopular truth is that some children should learn to read young, some older, and some never. No point being forced, intelligent children will end up good readers whatever and unintelligent ones won't know what to do with what they read even if they learn.
"I even think that it’s really wrong for parents to ever try to push reading before 5," says Maryanne Wolf, director of the Center for Dyslexia, Diverse Learners and Social Justice at UCLA. (1/n)
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Women have two desires which are in tension: to win at getting a man who is a prize, and to be wanted so much she doesn't have to worry about him straying. The problem is, most ways a man can express how much he likes her imply that he's not as much of a prize as she thought.
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Everything that comes is a chance to recapitulate your values and demonstrate your love. Take those chances.
I’m getting married in 24 hours. Any advice from happily married people?
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It's hard to get a video of the flip-side where the man is out at work and the wife is having lunch with friends, but that's the trade most housewives make. And I, for one, think I'm getting the better deal. Much better a couple of hours cooking than 8h+commute each day!
Just look at the men relaxing and watching TV while the women are “labouring” in the kitchen.🤦🏻‍♀️ Any man that is still operating with this kind of mindset in 2026 really needs therapy. Marriage is a partnership.
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Finally go to buy clothes for the first time in...maybe years, only to discover that apparently rickets have come into fashion? Guess I'll be getting into my fabric stash instead.
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I can explain: women like going out on dates with men they like as people as well as find attractive. They also like to be able to flaunt a good catch in photos and so forth, and hope making him put in more effort first means he'll stick around.
It’s insane because this is actually very common mentality around women that has never made sense and it doesn’t necessarily have to be “chad” but just weird that men they see as potential long term partners they make wait. It’s a weird cuck type thing a lot of women do
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On the flip-side, a guy they find hot but wouldn't want to be seen with or dislike...well what's the point of dates with him? Better scratch the itch and move on. (To be clear, I'm not saying this is sensible/good, just that it's the reasoning for some of these women)
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The existence of people like this is a good reason to consider disbanding all child protective services.
CPS needs to step in and check on this woman’s home and the well-being of her children. The entire house is like this. She may clean it up temporarily, but within a few days, it ends up looking the same again.
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We can't easily change the laws, but every one of us can do one simple thing in our own social life: make women having jobs be low-status. If a woman you know has a job, make sure she knows you pity her for it. If a woman you know is considering a career, tell her careers suck.
It's useless to warn people about something if no one can have a conversation about why it's happening and what must be done to stop it. And that conversation is something that the tech elite are totally unprepared to have, because the solution will hit them directly in the pocketbook. I can tell you how to fix the fertility crisis in three words. But I can't actually fix the fertility crisis with those words, because y'all are not ready to do what's necessary. You think you are, but you're not. And you'll understand why I say you're not when I tell you the three words: Stop. Hiring. Women. Now do you get it? A moment ago, you thought you were willing to do anything to fix this existential threat to every part of the world that matters. Now, you want to ask me if there isn't, possibly, some gentler way that doesn't involve any nasty shocks to our nice, peaceful, tolerant, inclusive liberal way of life. Or you're just calling me a big meanie. Doesn't matter. When you argue with the point I am making here, you are arguing with Mother Nature, and I promise that Mother Nature cannot hear you, and she does not care. Women already have a job, a job they evolved for. A job that is so demanding that they have to 100% specialized for it. Women's job is making humans. And there's only 15 years between the age when it's a felony to make a human with them, and the age when the stuff they need to make humans starts to not work so well. If they are filling the role of men during that time period, they cannot do their own full-time, maximum effort job, and you get no new humans. This is precisely why Mother Nature designed women to only mate with men who are wealthier and more powerful than they are. Because a woman, who is working full time at making humans, needs to be supported. A baby human is an investment in the future. You can't make investments in the future without someone else supporting you in the present. If men cannot do this, women won't have babies with those men. This is why every single high-tech civilization has the fertility crisis. Because every time a civilization gets high-tech, the elites, who buy labor, have a bright idea. Let's start educating the women, they say. That way, we can hire them and double the supply of labor. Which is totally good for society, and the fact that we, personally, will benefit most from this is a total coincidence, and not in any way the whole reason that Wall Street loves feminism. Everyone knows that there's a near-perfect correlation between female education and the fertility crisis. But very few people have truly understood why. It's not the education. It's what the women are being educated for. If you just wanted to teach them matters animal, vegetable, and mineral, along with many cheerful facts about the square of the hypotenuse, there would be no problem at all. But women are not being educated so they can be interesting conversationalists, or well-rounded human beings. They are being educated so they can sit in a cubicle eight hours a day between the ages of 20 and 35, and answer emails or design marketing campaigns. That leaves them neither the time nor the resources nor the inclination to make humans, because men aren't any more powerful than they are. Which gives them the ick. And, of course, they're miserable, because they are genetically programmed to be happy when they do their real job, which is making and refining little humans. Not emails or spreadsheets or marketing campaigns. But no one is ready for this conversation, because it would involve admitting that every change in Western values after WW2 was a huge mistake. @elonmusk isn't going to stop hiring women. Hell, it's not even legal to stop hiring women. You can get sued into oblivion for that. But woman can't make little humans unless the other responsibilities of life are somebody else's problem. And she doesn't want to make little humans with any man who cannot shield her from all those extra duties. The bar for being able to do that used to be "reasonably successful tradesman". Now it's actual serious wealth. We can't IVF our way out of this problem. And we can't just sit around posting "have more babies" on twitter. We have to address the real obstacles that prevent women from having kids. And the biggest of those is that we have, in effect, demanded that they share every single adult male responsibility from career-building to voting to military service. All of these responsibilities and burdens were sold to women as opportunities. But nothing is an opportunity if you can't opt out. Just try being 18 years old and finding a man who will 100 percent support and take care of you while you bear his children and do a little light housework. It's possible, but you had better be exceptionally beautiful, with a sunny personality to match, and social access to the right set of men. Because the average man can't offer you that deal anymore. Not won't. Can't. And there aren't enough rich men to go around.
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Who wants pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen when you could have postpartum and topless in the kitchen?
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Women aren't naturally submissive, submission is a masculine virtue and women are bad at it but society needs submission to function. Everyone constantly antagonising and undermining one another is not a sustainable model.
If women were naturally submissive, there wouldn’t be a million incel podcasters crying about women not submitting.
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It's actually more a matter of competition between comparably attractive women. If a 5 is next to an 8 it doesn't matter how modest the 8 is dressed, short of a burka, the 8 is more attractive. A 5 next to a 4-6, however, can win by showing more skin.
All I'm saying is that I've never seen a fit woman endlessly extolling the virtues of "modesty"
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MerrilyThroughTheLoom retweeted
Monthly reminder that women want to be taken on an adventure, even if the adventure is "let's go to the cheese store"
let’s get married and go on adventures
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People who think this would change things are way too pessimistic about women's ability to influence the men around them. If it was that hard, how would we have got the vote in the first place? An all-male electorate had to vote for it, after all.
Here’s the thing about abolishing the 19th, as well, that’s obviously going to annoy liberals, but it’s entirely true: nothing else bad happens except the thing itself. Do you understand what I mean? Obviously, if you took away the right of women to vote, then in the short run some of them would be mad about this. But that’s it. You understand that, right? Nothing else bad happens. When the DSA gets into power and does everything they want to do, then it destroys the country. It immiserates us. It makes us dramatically less safe. It destroys neighborhoods. It destroys the economy. People get their property taken away. People lose their jobs. The only bad thing about women not being allowed to vote is that they feel like this is an injustice per se. So the thing itself is just annoying, but nothing else bad happens. We know this, because we lived for most of our country’s history with women not having the right to vote.
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I heartily disagree that motherhood is un-sexy. Most children conceived through history have been 2nd or later conceptions, motherhood is MORE sexy than nubility...just mainly to the father of the firstborn (and I have no sympathy for women who wanted to conceive #2 elsewhere).
1) A woman’s body changes after a baby. She can still be attractive, but not always in the same way. Mourning the loss of the shape you were used to while your husband is guilting you about getting rid of clothes that don’t fit you anymore and never will again 2) A woman’s sex drive is based in hormones, not her mental state. Women should make efforts to be attracted to their husbands, but that is not the same thing as sexual arousal. 3) Motherhood, in general, is not sexy. Mothers can be pretty, and trim, and healthy, but when you have babies nursing and toddlers climbing and wallering on you, sex is not a physical priority. Husbands should be patient with wives about this, and wives should make efforts not to neglect their husbands 4) Nobody is going to get to remain married to the same person for their whole lives. People get sick or injured. Men go bald. Women get diastasis recti. It’s not always about getting fat. And more than that, we don’t stop maturing on our wedding day (thank goodness). The man you are describing here is childish and shallow for not appreciating his wife’s growth and for being disappointed that she’s not the “hot girl” he married.
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People act like submission is a feminine thing but actually nearly all the best loyal subordinates are men. A good wife is actually doing her best to be her husband's loyal henchman (that is also why women like gangsters, where else are you meant to find a guy with henchmen?)
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I usually like to think of myself as not superficial or oversensitive, but someone told me they froth the milk in their tea and I retched.
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Education is obsolete, people can figure things out for themselves.
Name an education opinion that’ll have you like this…
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I think there's an issue of sampling bias here. Women who like normal sex can easily get it IRL, so have no use for porn (unlike men). Much harder to get violent sex on demand, so those who want it end up resorting to fantasy more.
I hate to break it to you, but it’s women who are more interested in strangling and aggressive sex than men, at least on the evidence of pornography preferences. In fact, women are a lot more likely to seek out aggressive porn than men.
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Pro tip for men who want to get the measure of a potential girlfriend: find out if she sells on her old clothes, and see what her stock looks like.
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