I feel like men who write... "What does that have to do with your experience?" Or "You're just making it about you." Don't understand sharing what you've gone through is a way not only to help yourself, but could help someone else. Knowing you are not alone is important and healthy. This is why I believe a lot of men die right after their wives. When wives can live decades after thier husbands. Cause they don't have another healthy way to express their feelings and they lost the only one they could express it to.