Elon Musk told his first wife: if you were my employee, I would fire you. She was the mother of his 5 sons. Justine Wilson was 18 when she met him at college in Canada. He was 19. He would call her with classical music playing in the background and ask her out. She’d say no. He’d call again. No again. Once she finally agreed to ice cream, then didn’t show up. He found her on campus, holding two chocolate chip cones melting down his hands. They ended up sharing a Bay Area apartment with three roommates and a dachshund that was never house trained. Then came Zip2. Then PayPal. When PayPal sold, Elon’s net worth went past $100 million. At their wedding dance he whispered: I am the alpha in this relationship. She later wrote that he said the employee line just as often. She described herself as a trophy wife who sucked at it. They had five sons. Twins, then triplets. In 2008 he filed for divorce. Six weeks later he texted her that he was engaged to a British actress in her early twenties. Years later she read a profile where Elon told a friend he’d risk his entire fortune for a rocket, even if he, Justine and the kids ended up in her parents’ basement. He never said it to her. On a TEDx stage she joked that she wanted to go back in time and ask him: have you seen my parents’ basement? Now she appears in Alex Gibney’s new 4-hour documentary Musk. She says she learned the term gaslighting through her relationship with Elon. At the end of that TEDx talk she said visionaries might make lousy husbands, but they bring light to the dark. Can you build something world-changing and still be a good husband? Follow me for more stories like this.