Clinical Psychologist; post-seminar Psychoanalyst-in-Training at the New Center for Psychoanalysis, Los Angeles ; https://xitter.cf/t.co/6MHnsxesF6
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When psychotherapists are more able to inhabit the fullness of themselves, spontaneity may manifest primarily internally, in restraint, listening, and fantasy. We bear, survive, invite, and cultivate beyond words. We communicate our aliveness and presence without needing to talk.
To say, “it’s all grist for the mill,” versus to inhabit said sensibility; two drastically different processes.
“From my experience working with therapists, many suffer from being too passive, masochistic, and conflict-avoidant. Often motivated by the need to heal a depressed or otherwise emotionally disturbed family member, therapists gravitate toward soothing and peacemaking behaviors…”
“Having inhabited this role as children when they were powerless to change their parents' behaviors or attitudes, their single-minded empathic devotion was adaptive. They were not in a position to confront their parents and naturally wanted any parental conflict to…”
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Recent research on affect supports the notion that all affect is communicated, even if only unconsciously. So therapists who believe they can hide their anger, rage, or hatred from their clients are only fooling themselves.
— Karen Maroda
Psychodynamic Techniques
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Winnicott’s “Hate in the Countertransference” acknowledges the parallels on infancy in how the analyst (Mother) experiences hate toward the patient/newborn.
Interesting if you are a therapist that unconsciously disavows aggression, and very salient for treatment.
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“We learn the grammar of our being before we grasp the rules of our language”
- Christopher Bollas
Session after session, they try to find answers but invariably come up empty. And so we sit in the silence that forms their core, with the muted voice of desire grown too faint to guide them.
— Robin Kirman
Therapy Used to Be Hot
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“What such patients require is the opposite of what the dominant therapeutic models offer: not better self-management tools or the suppression of inconvenient feelings but a willingness to refuse definite goals and timelines, to resist asking that they perform, and to foster…”
“Maybe there's just something about human life that's so anxiety producing for most people they do what they can to avoid the real questions, and in avoiding the real questions they are creating a future of massive problems and threats to our continuity…”
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“When considering conflict, I find it helpful to remember Leston Havens' concept of ‘complex empathy.’ We need to maintain empathy for the patient's wish to change and for the resistance and the reasons for it. Anna Freud talked about this in terms of having empathy for the…”
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I would rather be the child of a mother who has all the inner conflicts of the human being than be mothered by someone for whom all is easy and smooth, who knows all the answers, and is a stranger to doubt.
— D. W. Winnicott
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🧵People have a difficult time grasping that the “good enough mother” concept Winnicott is talking about is basically vibes.
If you are a perfectionist, your neurotic vibes will permeate the child’s environment and negatively impact them.
Your neurotic AF vibes will also
