Israel "Izzy" C. Kalman

Here's a great post about blame, responsibility, and our biological programming for life in nature, by evolutionary psychologist, Lauretta Breuning. facebook.com/share/p/19h9zkW…

Laura Crawshaw explains why she is TheBoss Whisperer youtu.be/4MznbacTeL4?si=wMSZ… via @YouTube

Workplace bullying guru Laura Crawshaw tells about the employee who wanted to kill his boss youtu.be/DL07JeSsixU?si=3dFQ… via @YouTube

…and he saw me and he was so happy that I’m there! Because he thought I’m gay! But then I told him, “No, I’m not gay, I’m here because my girlfriend brought me here.” He was so let down by it, he was so deflated.” Listen to the whole episode on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/6iR…

“Once upon a time ago the concern was with real aggression. Now it’s with micro aggression, anything you can say that might upset somebody.” Listen to episode 18 on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/6iR… Or download directly: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…

We should accept them but we shouldn’t glorify their difference as something to be admired and appreciated and promoted. Listen to episode 18 on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/6iR… Or download directly: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…

“He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own dispositions will waste his life in fruitless efforts and multiply the griefs which he purposes to remove” ― Samuel Johnson Listen to episode 18: open.spotify.com/episode/6iR…

"I kept telling him all the time “you will really finalize, or really really get your practice perfect when you learn to handle your relationship with your son.”" -My wife, in episode 16 Stream it: open.spotify.com/episode/1YI… Or Download it directly: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…

“I decided one day I’m going to try this with mom, I’m going to refuse to get angry at mom no matter what she says or does, and it worked like a miracle.” Stream episode 16 on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/1YI… Or Download it directly: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…

“He once even threw on me plates.” “One plate.” “One plate?” “And I missed. I purposely didn’t hit her.” -my wife and I on our marriage before I started applying the Golden Rule Stream episode 16 on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/1YI…

“It took me 25 years of marriage to recognize that I did marry my soulmate. I think it took mom 40 years. When she was with me on this trip she attended some of my lectures ... realized she didn’t make a mistake by marrying me.” Stream episode 16: open.spotify.com/episode/1YI…

“Israel Kalman and I have hit it off tremendously, in part because we both think totally out-of-the-box, in the opposite way, of the prevailing ideas in mental health.” -Steve Sussman, on our friendship Stream episode 15: open.spotify.com/episode/47p…

“I realized that what I was taught in (psychology) graduate school was pie-in-the-sky.” -Steven Sussman, unconventional therapist, on the revelation that his practice with teens is more about defiant behaviors than bruised psyches Stream episode 15: open.spotify.com/episode/47p…

“With how scary the world is, if your parents are inadequate, and you can manipulate them, and get over on them, then you don’t feel they’re gonna protect you.” -Steve Sussman, guest on episode 15 of ReThink Bullying Stream it: open.spotify.com/episode/47p…

“I got along famously with the inmates. I didn’t say, like other therapists “poor you, your parents abused you,” or “they were drug addicts.” The more your parents did to you, the more you should realize you don’t do that to your children.” @Dr Sussman open.spotify.com/episode/47p…

“If I can I’ll get you arrested. You threaten your parents, you punch a hole in the wall, I’ll put your *ss in jail. I’m not that kind of therapist who’s gonna say, “Oh please, don’t charge him.”” -Steve Sussman, guest on episode 15 of ReThink Bullying open.spotify.com/episode/47p…

Am I sure that the best thing is not to interfere? No, but if I understand triangulation I realize why our founding fathers warned us against getting involved in outside countries’ conflicts. Stream episode 14: open.spotify.com/episode/7qF… Or download it: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…

If Valency couldn’t count on the whole world standing up for him he probably would have come to some kind of agreement with Russia where they give up something but Ukraine makes it out relatively unharmed. Stream episode 14: open.spotify.com/episode/7qF…

“Here’s my arm! Take it and break it! Just don’t call me an idiot!” A line from my seminars whose purpose was to expose the absurdity of equating physical injury with emotional injury. Stream the whole episode: open.spotify.com/episode/6li… Or download: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…

All of these wisdom things that people eagerly embrace regarding life in general, when it comes to bullying they just throw it out the window like it doesn’t exist. Stream the whole episode: open.spotify.com/episode/6li… Or download directly: traffic.libsyn.com/c0ebded5-…