Generosity isn’t just a sign of virtue. It’s also a mark of intelligence. Data: people with high IQs have more unselfish values, give more to charity, and negotiate better deals for others. They prioritize the long-term collective good over short-term self-interest. It's smarter to be a giver than a taker. nytimes.com/2020/03/27/smart…

The 8th habit of highly effective people: They don’t spend all their time reading about the 7 habits of highly effective people. Extended reflection without action is a form of procrastination. Doing is a catalyst for thinking and learning.

If you want to predict kids' screen time, look to their parents. Children spend less time on devices when their parents use them less often—and ban them at meals & bedtime. Kids internalize the values they observe. A key to being a good role model is setting healthy boundaries.

The ideal end of an argument isn't always “I agree.” It’s often “I see where you're coming from." Healthy disagreement isn't about one person being right. It's about both people feeling understood. The test of a good fight is whether insight is gained and respect is maintained.

Don’t mistake burnout for laziness. When people show a steady decline in effort and output, it’s often a sign of exhaustion. They don't need carrots and sticks to motivate them. They need people to demand less of them and provide more support to them.

Showing compassion is not a sign of weakness. It’s a source of strength. In the early days of COVID, the more CEOs expressed concern for employees, the less company stock prices fell. Each statement of concern was worth 2.5% better returns. It pays to care about people.

Dear managers: A company is not a family. Parents owe kids unconditional love. Most companies only offer at-will employment. A leader's job is not to show daily affection. It's to give people pay and purpose, support their success, and care about their well-being. link.chtbl.com/RTAdam

The best place to relax is near water. After just 2 minutes of viewing water outdoors, blood pressure and heart rate drop. It's more calming to look at a lake, pool, or stream than trees or grass. Beaches are popular for a reason. Wider bodies of water bring more tranquility.

Relaxing is not the only way to recharge. Finding meaning is a source of fuel. A restorative break doesn't just avoid tasks that burn you out. It adds people and projects that fire you up. Detaching from stress prevents exhaustion. Attaching to purpose elevates energy. tinyurl.com/25b49zrr

Emotion regulation is not about controlling what you feel. It's about choosing how you respond. Wise people don't suppress emotion. They find constructive ways to express it. Intense feelings don't always demand immediate reactions. They often benefit from deep reflection.

The best antidote to burnout is not teaching people coping skills to handle stress. It's redesigning work to reduce stress. The cure for exhaustion is removing overwhelming demands and the norm of self-sacrifice. Healthy workplaces value well-being as much as performance.

Cliques divide people into insiders and outsiders. Healthy groups offer everyone a sense of belonging. It's not enough to be polite. It's critical to convey that we value each member's contribution. The foundation of respect is making sure others feel seen and heard.

Reading fiction has small but meaningful benefits for empathy. 70 experiments: concern for and understanding of others grow more through reading novels than watching shows and movies. Immersion in words about imaginary worlds can help us see realities beyond our own.

Self-doubt stops too many women from applying for jobs. After clearing the bar for expert-level work, 92% of men applied—but only 50% of women did. It shouldn't matter whether you feel qualified. That's for the employer to judge. If you're interested, put your hat in the ring.

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