So much of feeling lost is because you're focusing too much on what you want Will this make me a lot of money? How much time will it take? What will happen to me if it doesn't work out? But with a simple reframe, the path becomes clear. How can I uniquely leverage my specific gifts, advantages, and skills in order to provide value to the world? The former causes you to "search." What I want seems like it doesn't exist, and I need to find it somehow. It's a scarce way to think The latter "attracts." The assumption is that opportunity is perpetually everywhere. It's all around you. You just need to open your eyes and insert yourself into the abundance of positions where you can help someone Apply this to relationships as well. The world can't give you what you want until you give it what it needs. Instead of seeking the reward, let your efforts reflect back to you

Start defining your wins off of progress, not just outcomes. You didn't close the client. Get the girl. Hit the number. But you didn't fail. Think about the intangible growth. You don't sweat during calls anymore. You stay calm in the face of rejection now. This is the real gain.

Whenever something unexpected happens, realize that it isn’t your life that changes. You’re still breathing. You still have the same mind, body, and soul. What changes is the specific fantasy you attached to your life. The future disappears, but the future never actually existed.