yet again husband and I are having trouble getting stuff done bc we can't stop talking. this is a common problem for us. accidentally staying up too late because our conversation is too interesting, etc I said "ok let's stop talking for now" and he agreed. minutes later I called out "hey I just got a crazy idea" without thinking. ah shit. he came over to talk with me. we agreed we should stop after this one last thing. I told him about it, and then right away he started on something else. I said no we have to stop. I told him we should try complete silence for 30min to break the cycle. that's where we're at now. TBD if we will survive another 25min of this

It didn't register for me until today that the process of ego maturity for women is fraught with all kinds of challenges that men don't have true analogues for. Not in the maiden-mother-matriarch sense, but more in the difficulty facing shadow without hate. I think it's much harder for women to build a strong, self-critical ego structure that sees the weaknesses of their own sex without toppling over into individual self-hatred or culturally organized misogyny. This is partly because the maturity of femininity partially requires more contact with the social and superegoic than the maturity of masculinity, at least at some stages. And this is partly because there really just is a huge well of misogyny in culture - from both men and women - that is unique as a phenomenon. Misandry exists but it's not a true analog - that's a chimera of different resentments, envies and projections aimed at different groups of males, more differentiated by status. Misogyny has deep roots in the psyche via our relationship to our mothers at extremely young, primitive years. There is also an attachment component that is irreducible within our earliest, inner conception of "woman." It's an awful thing to have been insufficiently fathered but it's crippling to have been insufficiently mothered. Combine that with the natural prejudices of the animal brain toward strength and size, and misogyny simply has a much larger surface area in the collective consciousness. That makes it uniquely hazardous to try and avoid while coming to grips with a hard, realistic picture of maleness and femaleness as they actually are, not as we would like them to be. Of course men have our own unique struggles, but the path to a mature femininity seems to have many more psychological "near enemies" and emotional landmines that I hadn't considered until now. And the tendency to frame misogyny in moralizing terms that always victimizes women, rather than seeing women as full moral agents and patients who carry fully half of it in the collective unconscious, means you almost never see a realistic treatment of the issue written down anywhere. It's giving me a new appreciation for the difficulty of personal work and ego development that women face. Would love to hear from friends about their own observations here, on true differences between genders in the process of maturity.

Anyone else have the ability to walk into an establishment that’s dead empty, with you as literally the only patron And within 10 minutes it’s full? Noor (Nūr) Look into it

🚨 BREAKING: The largest public lands sell-off in modern U.S. history is being buried in the fine print of a Senate budget bill. Over 120 million acres; wilderness, forests, sacred tribal sites, wildlife corridors, all up for grabs. And here’s the kicker: -No hearings -No public input -No guarantee any of it goes to affordable housing Local governments and Tribal Nations aren’t even given first shot. Instead, they’re forced to compete with Wall Street developers and lose. This is not housing policy. It’s a land liquidation scheme dressed up as reform; a Trojan horse for billionaires. They’re selling off your public lands to fund tax cuts and fossil fuel profits. And unless stopped, it sets the precedent that every wild place in America is now for sale.