Simon 🏕️

Firstly, in the Kernbergian world I inhabit, borderlines are not psychotically organized by definition. That distinction matters with your question. If by "bring receipts" you mean confront distortions and self destructive behavior, then yes there is a strong argument for this. You can generally confront them harder than you think they can. And they wont like it, but you will see them get a little more real, when you do. Back to the differentiation with psychotic folk, you don't confront them in this same way, exactly because of their psychotic organization. Borderline people show a sense of self which is nascent and primal, but ringed by hostile defenses. For this reason, yoi can confront them if the confrontation moves in the durection of firming up their higher sense of self (what DBT people call Wise Mind, and what i call observing ego function). You would not do this with psychotic folks, because rather than pushing back with hostile defenses like a borderline, they would likely feel ontologically challenged by your confrontation in a way that would be too hard to tolerate.