What type of drunk are you?

Rama Duwaji, wife of Zohran Mamdani, graces the cover of The Cut: “First Lady of New York City”

Not every connection is rooted in genuine mutual interest or emotional alignment. Sometimes you’re not being chosen for who you are, but for the role you can temporarily play in someone’s life. You might be a placeholder, mistaking proximity/consistency for connection and emotional depth. These connections can last years but have no true meaning. It can feel like something real is developing, but something stays stagnant and emotionally out of reach. That’s because the person you’re trying to build with isn’t actually building anything with you. They’re resting in the comfort of what you offer, without ever intending to make it permanent.