twentysomething thoughts …

San Diego, CA
Joined December 2012
People are losing the attention span to even watch 30 minute TV shows as short form video eats the world.
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Researchers followed a group of people who said their marriage was really unhappy. Almost 8 out of 10 who didn't get divorced said they were happily married five years later. The ones who did get divorced weren't any happier for it. This was a University of Chicago team led by sociologist Linda Waite, working off a national survey of more than 5,000 married adults. 645 of them said they were unhappily married. The researchers checked back five years later to see how the people who left were doing compared to the people who stayed. Across the whole unhappy group, about two-thirds of the ones who stuck it out were happy in their marriage again. And the couples in the worst shape at the start had the biggest turnarounds, which is about the opposite of what most people would guess. The divorce group never came out ahead on any of the 12 measures of well-being the researchers tracked, including depression and self-esteem. Getting out took care of some stress and piled on new kinds, mostly custody fights and money problems. Here's the number that makes sense of it. In three out of four of these unhappy marriages, the other spouse was happy with the marriage. So most of the time it's one person going through it, and a lot of what makes someone miserable in year seven, a job going sideways, depression, a brutal couple of years with little kids, either passes on its own or follows them into the next relationship. That's pretty much what couples told the researchers when they interviewed 55 who had turned things around. Plenty of their problems just ran their course. Some put real work in. And some stopped waiting on their spouse to make them happy, went and built that for themselves, and the marriage got better along the way. To be fair to the two women in that clip, wives do have a real complaint here. Stanford sociologist Michael Rosenfeld found women initiate about 69% of divorces, but when unmarried couples break up it's close to 50/50 who ends it. Something about being a wife specifically wears on people, and that's worth taking seriously. Abuse is a completely separate situation too, and 86% of the unhappy spouses in Waite's data said there was no violence in the marriage at all. These were regular people having regular bad years. Telling a woman the answer is always yes means comparing her husband at his worst to a guy who doesn't exist yet, and the five-year numbers say most of those marriages came back.
"Call Her Daddy" host Alex Cooper & actress Sophia Bush: if a woman is questioning whether she can do better than her current husband, "the answer is always yes." "This idea that it's too late or you're too old, or who are you to want more, that's patriarchy. That is crazy."
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Where would San Diego lie?
Life is hard but nothing -- I mean nothing -- beats Valencia, Porto and Split. Jokes aside, for what these charts are worth, I'd not overlook this quadrant
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Freckle is the first kids phone built for real-world adventure. Shipping in December. Pre-order today: freckle.tech
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In Japan, a new trend called JUCY BOOK RAVE has dozens of people sitting quietly in Tokyo nightclubs reading novels while a DJ plays ambient music.
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We should require every high schooler to start a business -- hear me out Most of society (and most policymakers & academics) know next to nothing about how the economy works, how things get built, or how value is created and sold. Many think starting & growing a business is easy. It isn't. If kids are successful at business creation, they skip a 4+ year college degree & just keep building Kids who fail still leave with accounting, sales, taxes, and most importantly... permanent respect for how things actually get made. What say you?
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"Create an image of what the world would look like if I were in charge, based on my tweets" I'm in love with this vision: Family dinners, Socratic discussions, kids making and selling handmade goods, neighborhoods filled with children, gardens, and grandparents♥️ This is the kind of childhood I write about -- and the kind of world I hope we build together.
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This is something I've felt for the last five years, and just assumed I was imagining it. This is horrifying.
I think we have a problem
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Greer retweeted
the hell going on in USA
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Why doesn’t the larger CEO simply eat the smaller CEO?
Live: @DarioAmodei x @Benioff The @AnthropicAI co-founder & CEO joins us at @Dreamforce for a conversation worth hearing ☁️
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Finally some good news on here
A rare good news story about health in the US. The insane amount of Fentanyl deaths is declining.
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🇺🇸 Lifetime taxes per person: California: $1,075,061 Florida: $508,980
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Greer retweeted
To love is to gain joy from another’s well-being.
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The path to heaven feels like hell, and the path to hell feels like heaven
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NEW: America’s biggest berry empire doesn’t actually grow berries. Driscoll’s is the middleman that controls the genetics, reaps the profits, and then shifts blame. A whistleblower alleges the Canadian government repeatedly flagged their berries for exceeding pesticide limits.
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I CAN HAVE EVERYTHING I WANT, IF I CAN HELP OTHER PEOPLE GET WHAT THEY NEED.
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Christopher Nolan's $250 million movie depends on one building in Burbank, 41 theaters worldwide, and roughly 90 people on Earth who know how to run the projector. The Odyssey is the first feature shot entirely on IMAX film, and FotoKem is the last lab anywhere that can make the 70mm prints. Every one of the thousands of cuts in the film was spliced by hand with a glue pot. The production burned through 2.1 million feet of negative, about 400 miles of film, and every foot of it flew back to that single lab for processing. Each finished print costs around $80,000 to make. One Las Vegas theater spent $32,000 on humidifiers just to keep its copy from drying out. Its projector had sat idle since Interstellar in 2014. Here's what the scarcity bought: when 70mm tickets went on sale a full year before release, 95% of seats sold within an hour. Retail price was $25 to $28. Resellers got $300 to $400. Presales have already broken the all-time IMAX record. Studios spent 20 years abandoning film because digital was cheaper to ship. Nolan kept the last lab alive and turned the bottleneck itself into the marketing. Thousands of rooms can play the 4K version. Only 41 can show the 18K version, and that gap is why people are crossing state lines for a movie ticket. The format Hollywood declared dead in 2010 is now the scarcest luxury good in entertainment.
Director Christopher Nolan brought 60 Minutes to Fotokem in Burbank, California, to watch their artists assemble and color correct final release prints of “The Odyssey.” It's the only motion picture film lab in the world that still produces 70 millimeter prints. cbsn.ws/4fmX11q
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It’s rapidly becoming 50-50 though.
Replying to @InvestLikeBest
Marc Andreessen's (@pmarca) info diet:
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Not exaggerating when I say the future depends on this catching on en masse. Kids, adults. Book clubs, silent reading groups. For the past twenty-five years tech has corroded our attention, intelligence and basic pleasure in living, and books are the key to winning them back.
My kids have mandatory silent reading time every day. Neighbors didn't want to leave, so they were invited to stay. That means 6 kids sat in silence in a room for 20 minutes. Miracles do happen!
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Another red, white, and blue W! What’s the last thing this many Americans got behind and believed in? Keep it rollin 🇺🇸
The USA are bound for the next round! 🇺🇸 #FIFAWorldCup

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