I didn’t date for about 2-3 years after my last real relationship and it wasn’t bc I missed them, it was because I fucked up and I needed to work on myself. I became pretty avoidant bc I was afraid of making the same decisions. I didn’t trust in my own growth and self reflection. And it’s embarrassing explaining that because one, I have to admit I’ve been a shitty partner, which is already starting off on the wrong foot but is also difficult albeit honest. But two, I’ve also had situations where explaining that, became “oh, you’re changing for your ex” “you’re just waiting for your ex to come back” simply levels of insecurity I can’t deal with. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with me. I made so many excuses for myself that it just got to a point for me. So navigating those conversations when dating IS scary bc people WILL assume you miss your ex, act weird and clam up. Idk why don’t we just communicate honestly and earnestly instead of assuming but also come fully healed before dating anyone?? Idk just a stab in the dark lol