In Return of the Jedi, Leia infiltrates Jabba's palace by cross-dressing and pretending to be a male. She reveals her true identity as a woman after birthing Han Solo from the carbonite, and tells him she loves him as she cradles him like a helpless newborn baby. Then, her female identity betrayed, she is stripped almost completely naked and turned into a mute sex slave to the disgusting embodiment of male lust. Finally she mounts Jabba and asphyxiates him to death with her chain--defeating him, essentially, by besting him at his own game, and sexually conquering him. But this is all part of Leia's initiation into womanhood. She has to go through these trials to prepare her to be married to Han Solo and have children with him. The significance of the moment later in the film when she weeps and asks Han to hold her is overlooked, or if it isn't overlooked, it's interpreted as part of a lamentable regression and weakening of Leia as a character. One reason Lucas frustrates so many people in this regard is because he likes to subvert gender roles, but then he likes to basically re-establish them when all is said and done. He's basically casting this subversion as part of a dream-like trial in the wilderness, whose object is a confrontation with certain uncomfortable realities which can seem scary to a child, but which ultimately must be accepted upon the return to civilization as an adult. There a lot of people who would prefer to stay children forever, and to live in the dream forever, and who do not understand the necessity of the return to reality and to civilization.