Avoid people that put their family before you, the spouse. Yes, I said it and I will stand by it. When someone marries you, you become their immediate family. You are their partner, their home, their first responsibility. Not their mother, not their father, not their siblings. If you marry someone who still puts their parents decision before your marriage, you did not just marry a person, you married their entire family. And that is where the problem begins. Every small decision becomes my mom said, my dad did not agree,my family does not like it. At some point you will ask yourself, did I marry you or did I marry your family? Loving your family does not mean abandoning your parents. You should respect them and take care of them. But there must be boundaries. Because once your spouse starts to feel like an outsider in their own marriage, that marriage is already cracking. Your mother will not sleep in your house every night when you are sick. Your spouse will. Your father will not hold your hand when life gets hard. Your spouse will. Your siblings have their own lives to live. So if someone is not mature enough to understand that marriage is leaving your old family to build a new one, avoid them. No matter how attractive, how rich, or how sweet they are. A marriage controlled by extended family does not last. It will frustrate you, drain you, and eventually break you. If they put their family before you while you are just dating, they will do it ten times more when you are married. Don't deceive yourself. Avoid that situation now before you enter a lifetime of regret.