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THREAD: Law School Didn’t Teach You This. But It Should Have The legal profession won't hand you success. You must build it. Here’s the truth no one tells you in law school: 🧵 1. Law is a Business of People, Not Just Paper
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Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
When I was between the age of 16 to 21, 90% of the girls of my age were dating men aged 28 to 39 years, some were even dating between 30 to 45 years. I didn't complain. The girls claimed that these men are more mature and wiser than younger guys, even though personally I had...
When you realize that the reason some older women push so hard against men dating younger women is not necessarily because they genuinely want to “protect” these younger women, who, by the way, are grown adults and capable of making their own decisions, but because they see them as competition for the men they want, a lot of things start to make sense. Imagine a woman in her 30s knowing that men in their 30s are generally the age group she expects to date, only to watch some of those men deliberately choose women between 18 and 25 instead. And you expect her to sit quietly and watch younger women take the men she considers part of her dating pool without feeling threatened by it? Let’s stop pretending. It has nothing to do with protecting younger women. She simply doesn’t like the fact that younger women are getting the attention and access to men she wants. It is competition and self-interest dressed as genuine concerns and female solidarity.
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Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
When you realize that the reason some older women push so hard against men dating younger women is not necessarily because they genuinely want to “protect” these younger women, who, by the way, are grown adults and capable of making their own decisions, but because they see them as competition for the men they want, a lot of things start to make sense. Imagine a woman in her 30s knowing that men in their 30s are generally the age group she expects to date, only to watch some of those men deliberately choose women between 18 and 25 instead. And you expect her to sit quietly and watch younger women take the men she considers part of her dating pool without feeling threatened by it? Let’s stop pretending. It has nothing to do with protecting younger women. She simply doesn’t like the fact that younger women are getting the attention and access to men she wants. It is competition and self-interest dressed as genuine concerns and female solidarity.
Why would a 30 years old man marry a young girl of 18??
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When I was between the age of 16 to 21, 90% of the girls of my age were dating men aged 28 to 39 years, some were even dating between 30 to 45 years. I didn't complain. The girls claimed that these men are more mature and wiser than younger guys, even though personally I had...
When you realize that the reason some older women push so hard against men dating younger women is not necessarily because they genuinely want to “protect” these younger women, who, by the way, are grown adults and capable of making their own decisions, but because they see them as competition for the men they want, a lot of things start to make sense. Imagine a woman in her 30s knowing that men in their 30s are generally the age group she expects to date, only to watch some of those men deliberately choose women between 18 and 25 instead. And you expect her to sit quietly and watch younger women take the men she considers part of her dating pool without feeling threatened by it? Let’s stop pretending. It has nothing to do with protecting younger women. She simply doesn’t like the fact that younger women are getting the attention and access to men she wants. It is competition and self-interest dressed as genuine concerns and female solidarity.
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This is not to say all girls that are 30+ played around with older men in their twenties... But majority behaved that way, I am speaking generally. If you're amongst the few that are the exception, then good for you, but you must realize that this is the general presumption.
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But before you claim to be an exception, question yourself and think deeply: "Did I reject a very young man in my past because he was 'immature' in my opinion?"
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And you expect me when I am 30 years to get married to another girl aged 30😂 As how na? What happened to the girls aged 18 to 23 years (scratching my head, asking the ladies close to me: "make it make sense?)
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Youth often mistake information for wisdom, while old people often mistake experience for truth. Wisdom begins when you become humble enough to learn from both ~ Victor Chinedu Eric
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Excellent strategy with some level of discipline beats exceptional discipline, all the time. Especially in a short movie called LIFE.
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I genuinely believe as a man, you can check a lot of boxes during your lifetime, all is vanity, I know. But even God will be proud of you. — The developed spirit box✅ — The developed mind box✅ — The relationship and networking (people magnet) box✅ — The formidable body box✅
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I think the greatest challenge is and will always be, time management and discipline. Master the two and you master life. I do not speak as one who as attained, I rather converse as one who strive to attain such mastery.
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If you are going to be too available, be very significant. If you are going to be unavailable, be significant. Being always available and insignificant is very bad. But the worst that can happen is to be unavailable and insignificant ~ Victor Chinedu Eric. But in all: Be significant. The world is in search of significant people. 🥀
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Let me start with a truth most people avoid: You cannot live an exceptional life doing normal things. Everyone wants rare results. But lives a common life. That contradiction is the problem. You say you want freedom, wealth, impact. But your actions? Safe. Predictable. Approved by everyone. You want to stand out, but you’re afraid to stand out. Here’s the rule: Your life will always match your level of courage. Not your wishes. Your actions. And exceptional actions come at a cost. Let’s be honest. They look strange at first: — Studying when others relax — Building when others complain — Taking risks when others play safe People call it foolish… until it works. Then they call it “grace.” If you choose the conventional path, expect conventional results. No surprises there. But understand this: Everything exceptional was once unconventional. The difference? Someone had the courage to go first. You don’t become exceptional by chance. You become exceptional by choice. Uncomfortable choices. Unpopular choices. Daily choices. And you can’t live an unconventional life while seeking approval from conventional people. Choose one. Faith matters. But faith without action is dead. Average actions build average lives. Exceptional actions build exceptional lives. Nobody drifts into greatness. You decide it. Then you prove it.
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You Don’t Lack Money or Connections… You Lack THIS Identity Shift 👇 Success is not something you chase. It is something you attract by who you become. Let that sink in. Because most people are running around chasing money, connections, opportunities… but ignoring the one thing that actually produces all three: their identity. You say you want to be successful. Fine. Then answer this honestly: Why aren’t you successful yet? Don’t dodge it. Most people will say: “I don’t have enough money.” Good. Then the real question is: Why don’t you have money? You’ll hear things like: “I haven’t met the right people.” “I don’t have the right network.” Alright. Then let’s go one layer deeper: Why don’t you have the right network? Because this is where people get uncomfortable. The truth is simple, but most people don’t like it: You have not yet become the kind of person that attracts, builds, and sustains those opportunities. That’s the real issue. Money is not random. Networks are not luck. Opportunities are not magic. They respond to who you are. If you lack money, it’s either a skill problem or a value problem. You haven’t built something people are willing to pay for yet. If you lack the right network, it’s a positioning and growth problem. You haven’t become valuable enough, visible enough, or intentional enough for the right people to take you seriously. If you’re not taking action, then let’s call it what it is: A discipline problem. You haven’t yet become a disciplined person. And until that changes, nothing else will. Because discipline is not what you do occasionally. It is who you are. Look around you. The people getting results are not special. They’ve just built the traits you’re still negotiating with: Consistency. Skill. Focus. Courage. They show up when they don’t feel like it. They learn what others avoid. They take action while others are still “planning.” So while you’re waiting for the perfect moment, they’re becoming. And becoming is what attracts everything you’re chasing. You don’t rise to the level of your desires. You fall to the level of your identity. So the real question is not: “What do I want?” The real question is: “Who do I need to become to naturally attract the life I’m asking for?” Fix that, and everything else starts to align. Ignore it, and you’ll keep going in circles.
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Young people have time but lack wisdom. Old people have wisdom but lack time. Mentorship fixes this gap and helps young people apply wisdom to their days. The challenge is this: “Young people find it difficult to listen to old people; hence, they keep repeating the mistakes of old people.” Some call this repetition of misfortune and unfortunate predicaments “generational curse.” I call it “generational ignorance.” The question a reasonable young person will ask is this: “Are all old people worthy of being given the privilege of a listening ear?” If you’re an older person viewing this, or a young person with a response you believe is worth sharing, feel free to furnish your answers to the aforementioned question. The common answer wise people give to this question is usually: “Only listen to people who have the results you want.” But I have a rebuttal: Some people knew the right thing to do but failed to do it, maybe due to laziness or other reasons. Also, some people have come to know the right things to do through the pain of failure and regret. These sets of people may not have the results to show, but they are worth listening to. So if you only listen to people who have the results you desire, you will miss out on a whole lot of knowledge and wisdom. For instance, most humans know that you need to take your health seriously. So, following the logic of the common response, if an overweight, sick man (clearly one who hasn’t taken care of his health), out of pain and regret, advises you to take care of your health, you shouldn’t take him seriously because he doesn’t have the result you desire, namely, a healthy body 🙂 Do you now see the error in that reasoning? The next logical question is: “How do you distinguish good advice from bad advice?” My answer is simple, but hard to implement: Activity 1: To recognise good advice, you must know yourself and what you want in life (purpose, vision, and goals). Activity 2: If you have succeeded in Activity 1, then anytime someone advises you, it doesn’t matter who, whether they have the results you seek or not, you ask yourself a simple question: “If I adopt this advice, will it help me achieve my goals, vision, or purpose?” With this lens from Activity 2, it becomes easier to distinguish good advice from bad advice, irrespective of who it is coming from. And this is important, because sometimes even people with results give dumb advice, maybe because they don’t want you to get to where they are. Hence, you need to be wise. Thanks for attending my seminar. I know you found it helpful 🥂🤝
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Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
When results become the god, ethics become optional. But every society that abandons process eventually loses results too. Integrity isn’t weakness. It’s delayed strength.
Nigeria teaches you one dangerous lesson early: Results matter more than process. That single belief is why cheating feels normal and integrity feels foolish.
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Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
THREAD: Law School Didn’t Teach You This. But It Should Have The legal profession won't hand you success. You must build it. Here’s the truth no one tells you in law school: 🧵 1. Law is a Business of People, Not Just Paper
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Victor Chinedu Eric retweeted
I always seek mastery of life. So I can play life like a grand chess master.
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