The biggest lie society sells us is that women are the "emotional" gender and men are the "logical" ones. When you actually look at the dating market, the reality is the exact opposite. Men are the true romantics. Women are the pragmatists. A successful man, a CEO, a lawyer, a doctor will happily marry a woman who works as a cashier, a waitress, or is completely unemployed. He doesn't care about her status, her network, or her bank account. He marries her simply because she brings him peace, she is kind, and she makes him smile. He loves her for who she is, not what she can do for him. Now flip it. Ask a successful woman to marry a kind, loving, loyal man who works as a cashier. The answer is almost always a hard "No." Suddenly, "love" isn't enough. Suddenly, she needs "ambition." She needs "security." She needs a man on her level or higher. A woman rarely falls in love with a man’s soul; she falls in love with his trajectory. She loves what he can provide, where he can take her, and the lifestyle he unlocks. Men grow up thinking love is a fairy tale. They project their own capacity for unconditional love onto women. They think, "If I give her my heart, she will have my back." They learn the hard way that female love is performance-based. The moment he loses the job, the moment the confidence wavers, or the moment he stops being "useful," the "romance" evaporates. We call men "dogs" and "players," but men are the only ones willing to bet their entire lives on a partner who brings nothing to the table but her presence. Women love with a calculator in their hand. Men love with their eyes closed. And that is exactly why men are the ones who get destroyed they are trying to play a game of hearts with a gender that is playing a game of chess.

We women live a terrifying double life. A mother will look at her teenage son with absolute, boundless empathy. She will hold him when he cries, tell him his feelings matter, and pray to God that he finds a woman who loves him for his pure heart, not his wallet. But that exact same woman will turn around and look at her husband, who is literally someone else’s grown son and treat him like a malfunctioning piece of farm equipment if he loses his job or shows a moment of emotional fragility. We completely compartmentalize the fact that the men we drain, stress out, and demand traditional protection from were once little boys who were promised that their hearts mattered. ​ Look at the advice mothers pass down. It is pure, unfiltered hypocrisy. We sit our daughters down and say: "Never settle. Make sure he is a provider. If he is struggling financially, do not build him up, leave him. You deserve a King." But if a mother catches wind that her son's girlfriend is treating him that way? If her son loses his job and his girlfriend packs her bags? That mother will lose her mind. She will call the girlfriend a gold-digger. She will call her toxic. We are actively raising our daughters to become the exact type of women we pray our sons never meet.