Possessions and status cannot perpetually entertain nor perpetually satisfy a woman, she needs your true love and devotion at some point or she will self-destruct the relationship. We've all been there at least once. Frankly, I think any man worth his own weight in salt is playing the wrong game by looking at self-growth as a mechanism to meet a wife, or building an obelisk of success to attract beautiful women. That is not your purpose in life and you know it. If any single man be 19-30 and reading this, lock in real-quick. You absolutely without a doubt *-NEED-* to find and join a sophisticated social improvement organization. If you don't you are throwing your life and future potential away. While single, you have unlimited agency. This allows you to drop all of the dead-weight and become obsessed with creating your destiny. There are countless places any male who calls himself a man can show up on a "2nd Tuesday" or "3rd Thursday" or "1st Wednesday", be fed a free meal, spoken to with respect and furnished with materials that pertain to the goals of the organization. You will likely be called upon to speak about yourself for between 15 seconds and 1 minute, depending on the routine of that group. This is just compensation for walking into their gathering and dining with them. -{You Will Likely Be The Youngest Person There.}- You may not notice this as first, but you will realize that everyone who exceeds you in age sees the value of your youth before them. Take the utmost advantage of this. It will allow you to absorb lifetimes of lessons and perceptions that you otherwise would have been forever blind to. If you are already gainfully employed but want to command a higher form of pursuit, you can ask for the calendar of the organization. You will very likely find events that are put on by them and you will be cordially invited if you mention that you have interest in the activity. The most broad groups are those like: Rotary Club: Mostly 40+ parents and local business owners. They put on big events like local car shows, boat races, cookouts, rodeos, the sky is the limit. They use profits to do immensely impactful charity work like giving the /most/ needy kids from the local schools a chance to spend $250 at target with a trusted guardian (police supervision) when they have often never had anything new of their own. The dues are moderate but giving sincerity to the cause will easily find you sponsors if the cost of attendance to the luncheon is what stops you from volunteering to help run the pancake breakfast. Rotaract: Like Rotary, but for young adults who want to take charge of their own platform, engage with local libraries, animal shelters, elderly living care homes, parks, clean ups and a variety of benefit-others-not-myself projects. These clubs are more sparse because many of the people of these age groups are under duress from school or work, and are financially struggling. So anyone who does show up has other support or is able to use the club as a means to do something near and dear to their heart. The monetary dues are low but the time dedication is what makes this hard for College students or full time workers to commit to when also building a life for themselves. Chamber of Commerce: Band for Band one of the most trustworthy business groups you can join, must pay significant dues after a few visits, but will put you in the local publics eye if you seek to build your own business. Get ready to have reporters ask you questions the day you open up shop, find yourself featured in a local magazine for donating a playground. Perhaps they really loved your 3-page-story about the 5-best-places in area to eat with your family, so they get it published in 3 places because the owners want the clientele boost. Beyond that you have lots of other niche groups that usually exist to serve a specific purpose. These are often hard to find unless you are already aligned with that purpose. These include small clubs that have a 501(c) and collect donations to give out jackets or clothes to the homeless in the winter. Some seek to preserve historical artifacts, like the oldest house in the town, or historical sites. You can find their information by going online and by taking yourself to the places you'd like to enact change. Fate might guide you but you should definitely ask people in your area what they are involved in. There are also groups like AF-AM Freemasonry. Often misunderstood by the public or deemed controversial due to something someone read one time or heard from someone. Despite this, it is the oldest publicly facing organization of it's kind and is responsible for men like George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, Sam Houston, William Travis, Jesse Jackson, Mark Twain, James Garfield, Wolfgang Mozart, Buzz Aldrin and Arnold Palmer to name a few. The commitment level to this kind of organization is usually lifetime and your acceptance will be dependent on many factors. The only thing required of you is to seek out your local lodge and go knock on the door, don't be afraid to leave your info written down with request when they will next hold an open meeting or gather for refreshment. Sometimes they have a public facebook page or instagram with times posted, or you can DM the account admin. X might be a little too new for broad use but it's worth checking. -Now that you know what's out there we can talk about why you would even consider any of this when you could just entertain yourself for 6 hours a day. If you engage upon the groups with desire to take and eat more than your fair share, you will be booted out or shunned to the point you won't return. You must be humble and honest. The more you give your love and dedication to a group like this, the more it will eventually give back to you. The return on investment isn't meant to be calculated because that thought process will stop you from being where you need to be when you need to be there. Before you know it, everyone has known you a few years and they have seen you grow tremendously. They care about you, they ask what kind of support you need in life to make the next big jump, they might even introduce you to their daughter because she'd be lucky to marry a man like you. I typed this from the bottom of my heart and will diligently and elaborately respond to any question that has sincere and earnest intent to benefit from the interaction. I will not be responding to any form of negativity on this post, if you have harsh things to say feel free to bombard my replies tab. I will respond accordingly elsewhere.

Everytime I see posts about factorio or Dyson sphere simulator I remind everyone, the best players are gainfully employed and clock out from work to go home and simulate doing more work, but in a fun way.

I sent this to a handful of my childhood friends who I haven’t spoken to aside from at weddings or in passing via a comment section. A group chat formed and we have a “small” 8 man team ready to roll. One guy is using this as the reason to pull the trigger on finally building a pc. I suspect the chat will be 20 guys by Monday.

I am 10x cooler as a devoted dad than I was as a single guy.

I just sent rocket mortgage $3k and then I see this while sitting on my back patio looking at my pool that my wife and daughter swam in after dinner. 9/10 I’m picking this over paying a property management company $1850 for a two bedroom with loud egregious neighbors. The family across the street is leasing a smaller house with no pool for $2750. No one who seeks to build a family can escape the financial hardship of keeping a roof over your head, or the mouths that rely on you fed. Those who know true love, know true sacrifice. The fleeting pleasure of youthful tarry must pass if you are to become who you are destined to be. It might as well be sooner than later.

There are very few things in a man’s life that won’t be corrected after a 12 hour day of working for yourself.

Your first born is always your first born. Their arrival is what brings you from darkness to light. Once you bear witness to the beauty of their existence, you are beholden to a different world.

An ancient Lich with a pet hydra that only has one head, because he keeps it as a friendly house-trained friend instead of using it to defend his dark spire.

My daughter learned my first name, and it’s bizarre hearing her sing it like a song. She’s referred to me as Colby a few times today and correcting her feels wrong. I told her that’s what everyone calls me, but she can say daddy. The look on her face when she realized only she gets to call me that was priceless.

I’ve noticed that I’ve had the same mutual interactions on here for the last 6-8 months. I can roughly trace it back to stints of intentionally following people and directly interacting with their posts for a few days.

Retaining the mindset that: “Things happen for you, not to you” is key to navigating the hardships of life in a way that transmutes that suffering into growth.