CCChat Magazine- The FREE magazine on and around coercive control since 2017. Writing a book- watch this space. Editor: Min Grob

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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
To understand coercive control. To REALLY understand it, you need to understand how manipulators work. The things they know they can do, to bring us to our knees. #coercivecontrol
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
With Dr Proudman acting as counsel, alongside the Good Law Project and Leigh Day, Dr Charlotte Proudman is acting for a mother whose child has been forced by the courts to retain the surname of the man who raped her.
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
🗓️ Join us for a FREE webinar - Support your employees: The intersect between #DomesticAbuse and the early motherhood journey happening Wednesday 15 October 2025 at 11am - 12pm GMT. [1/2]
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
90% of attacks on women and girls are by people (95% men) known to them, 70% at home. Whilst stranger danger is real, familiarity risk is higher. Immigrant scapegoating is a distraction from all types of men committing VAWG
Glad to see more than 200 women’s organisations, incl @RapeCrisisEandW, the @EVAWuk and @RefugeCharity call on govt to reject the dangerous narrative linking sexual violence with immigration, a narrative that puts victims at greater risk. ➡️ mirror.co.uk/news/politics/o…
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
As many of you will know, I am the solicitor for Kate Kniveton, the former MP whose @ITVX documentary Breaking the Silence - Kate’s Story shone a light on how domestic abuse impacts professional women, challenging the myth they are somehow immune from it. I spoke with Kate on @Nelsons_Law Instagram Live about her case, the @ITVX documentary, about what really happens in the family courts and how it impacts survivors. If you missed it then 🎥 Watch now on the link below ⬇️ #BreakingTheSilence #FamilyCourtReform #PostSeparationAbuse #SurvivorsDeserveBetter #CoerciveControl
Missed our Instagram Live last week? No problem!✨You can still watch the full replay right here: shorturl.at/7B72c l @MelanieBridgen l #FamilyLaw l #DomesticAbuseAwareness
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
❓Have you ever been in court when the Judge hasn’t read your case❓ This happens more often than you think with routine overlisting and cases sandwiched into lists that are already full. Recently, I sat in family court with my client who had spent months pouring her heart, time, and every penny she had into preparing her case only to find the judge hadn’t read all the papers. Although it was not a final hearing it was still a hearing where decisions would be made to shape the future of the case. The barristers were rushed through submissions because the judge wanted to leave early, even making a flippant comment about “having the builders in.” ❌This is not justice. ❌This is not acceptable. Decisions made in the family court shape lives forever. They decide whether a child is safe, whether a survivor is protected, whether a family can begin to rebuild. The very least anyone should expect is that the judge has read the papers and I mean all the papers, including the exhibits before making decisions. Rushing through cases, cutting corners, or treating this as “just another day in court” fails survivors, fails children, and fails justice itself. We need to demand better. #FamilyCourt #JudicialAccountability #SurvivorsDeserveBetter #JusticeMatters #FamilyLaw #CourtReform #TraumaInformedJustice
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
Many academics, researchers & patient representatives tried to access the Science Media Center's closed-door brief with the media this morning on the new antidepressant withdrawal paper. We were denied access. All critical voices have been excluded, so one narrative can prevail.
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Replying to @survivorstrong3
If you are afraid of being abandoned, so you control your partner, you have a problem trauma from the past is not an excuse for present day behaviors, which harm connection, trust, are violent or demeaning, remove liberties, or are controlling
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If you fear getting in trouble when someone raises the voice, but they are not verbally abusing you, threatening you but expressing frustration - you have the responsibility to take a breath and observe the situation as it is not what your trauma says it is
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If you fear infidelity, and so you constantly monitor or question your partner in ways that are liberty reducing or conflict creating, or damage trust - you are the problem
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Here is an example if you are triggered by people being late because of trauma and you verbally berate cause anxiety in others force them be on your timeline - you are the problem
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I am a firm believer adults are responsible for managing their own trauma triggers. If you have trauma triggers you cannot control you must take responsibility for them, which may mean that you have to limit yourself & how you relate to others not ask others to limit themselves
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
I have the greatest respect for Gisèle Pelicot, but it's also important to be aware of her daughter Caroline Darian's situation too. Caroline thinks she is also a victim of Dominique Pelicot. Her mother doesn't think she was. “She is not able to recognise that I probably was drugged by my father. It is a way for her to protect herself.” Caroline no longer speaks to Gisèle. It is so painful when a father's violence tears mothers and children apart. I can totally understand why Caroline feels the need to be no contact now. “Incest in France is taboo. And there are a lot of victims where it’s always the same situation. To recognise that your daughter, your son, is a victim – it’s quite difficult. “I think my mum is not able to recognise it because, otherwise, I think she’s going to die.” Caroline encourages survivors to share their stories of abuse. independent.co.uk/news/world…
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
Tattle Life operator Sebastian Bond denied funds to pay his lawyers. In 2023, Neil & Donna Sands were awarded £300k over Tattle Life posts and froze £1.8m of his assets. Gavin Millar KC acts for Mr & Mrs Sands, instructed by Gateley Legal. More: matrixlaw.co.uk/news/operato…
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
A mother whose child was removed from her care by the family court is seeking to appeal a judge's ruling after an expert who gave evidence in her case was later suspended because they were found to have 'misled' the court in another case. tinyurl.com/73xmew44
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
The owner of this site that has ruined so many lives has finally been revealed - and been successfully sued by Neil and Donna Sands The owner of Tattle is Sebastian Bond, who also goes by Nest and Glow - a vegan influencer on insta. I now sit and wait whilst everyone plans group action - I will 100% be included in any action against this site and the users. I was very nearly not here today due to this site and the users - but I am glad I am here today to see this ruling. A man set this site up, but women are the majority perpetrators and stalkers using the site - usually targeting female victims. It’s the beginning of the end - and let me state this clearly - many of the users who will eventually been uncovered and unmasked are female professionals, working in VAWG, social workers, academics, counsellors, therapists, journalists. This isn’t a site filled with bots or basement dwellers - this is a site filled with people who live double lives - pretending they are anti-abuse and anti-harm whilst engaging in life changing abuse and stalking of so many victims. The tables are turning, and you are no longer protected by this site.
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CCChat Magazine- on and around Coercive Control retweeted
Important new research on the impact of domestic abuse on victim's brain health and why our response must treat it as a public health emergency. If you're a survivor and concerned by these findings do reach out for medical support and advice.
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