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“If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself.” ― Paulo Coelho

"Observe how difficult it is to change yourself and you will understand how naive it is to try to change another person.” ~ Voltaire

“They insulted me in seventy lines and only the spelling mistakes bothered me” — Fyodor Dostoevsky

I met her when i wasn't looking for love, And I lost her when I loved her the most." —Charles Bukowski.

"A homeless man died of hunger, but there was food at his funeral." -Oscar wilde

"Loving someone means giving them the power to destroy you, and trusting they won't." - Fyodor Dostoevsky (Letters)

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"Observe how difficult it is to change yourself and you will understand how naive it is to try to change another person." ~ Voltaire

“Heaven never helps the men who will not act.”

annotation: Of course, every model that divides people into five types is a strong simplification and generalization. Direct conclusions must generally be viewed with caution, as people can react very differently to external circumstances and requirements.

In order to be able to lead a healthy and stable relationship, the therapist couple recommends the Avoider type to learn to let others close to them and to deal openly and honestly with their own feelings.

As adults, Avoiders keep other people at a distance as much as possible and rely more on logic and rational arguments than on their feelings. For them, there is hardly anything more uncomfortable than the mood swings of others.

5. The Avoider As children, Avoiders were taught by their parents that feelings make us weak and that we should always strive for independence. They learn early on to be independent and to put aside their emotions and needs.

In order to have stable, healthy partnerships, this love type would do well to learn how to keep calm and give a relationship time to develop naturally, instead of committing themselves rashly and with a high probability of being disappointed in the end.

Vacillators typically develop a pronounced longing for love, they want stability and reliability from a relationship. As adults, they tend to idealize love and partnership. That is why they get doubts and fears with the smallest conflicts and difficulties.

4. The Vacillator For Vacillator, their own parents were primarily unpredictable. Basically,as children, Vacillators never had the feeling that they were important or even a priority for their parents; on the contrary, they lived with the constant fear of being let down by them

In relationships, controllers behave very dominantly and patronizingly, and they can also try to control their partner. In order to be able to lead a healthy partnership, it would be advisable for controllers to learn to trust, let go and get a grip on their own anger.

Controllers are extremely reluctant to leave their comfort zone because they then feel exposed and defenseless. And they prefer to solve problems alone and in their own way.

3. The controller As children, they usually felt neglected and barely protected. They had to learn early on to take care of themselves and be independent and tough. Controllers typically don't associate anger with vulnerability, but rather see it as a means of feeling stronger