writer: sex, books, art & gay culture ★ columnist @outmagazine ★ author of "My Love Is a Beast" from @pressunbound, get it here ↓
Berlin, Germany
Joined April 2013
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Hey Europe! My first (dirty, award-winning) book is officially available here, exclusively (for now) at SEVEN Records & Bookshop in Berlin (220 Torstraße).
Shop local or order via the SEVEN site, link in bio!
No more huge shipping fees from the U.S. Welcome to Berlin, baby
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Fist-Book-Club is open!
“A book that got a group of friends into fisting.”
That is what a reader told @badalexcheves about My Love Is a Beast: Confessions, our first Fist Book Club pick. The fisting scenes are reportedly why it is banned in some places.
Cheves says it was not just friends: he has heard from couples, baby gays, closeted guys, trans folks and more who got into fisting through it. It has sold on every continent except Antarctica.
Have you read it?
Where to get it:
In Berlin at @seven.berlin, Torstraße 220, Mitte. SEVEN is also the cheapest and fastest option online for Europeans. It is also on all major platforms, including Amazon, and as an ebook.
About Alexander Cheves:
Memoirist and sex columnist for @outmagazine living in Berlin. His book won the 2022 Geoff Mains Nonfiction Award and he was named to the Out 100 in 2021.
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A reader wants to know how to recognize manipulation before getting burned again. Alexander Cheves explains why the answer isn’t becoming less trusting — it’s knowing when to walk away. out.com/voices/go-ask-alex-g…
My latest advice in @outmagazine :)
Here to show love and support for queer men with real talk, real data, and no judgment. Read this and all #GoAskAlex posts at Out.com.
Got a question? My DMS are open 🔥
A reader wants to know how to recognize manipulation before getting burned again. Alexander Cheves explains why the answer isn’t becoming less trusting — it’s knowing when to walk away. out.com/voices/go-ask-alex-g…
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Why are FFers pushing ourselves so hard? Slow down!
Writer @BadAlexCheves: "online culture … is running unchecked and spurring aspiring fisters to do more than they can … unrestrained competitive fisting is dangerous." out.com/relationships/go-ask…
#gayfisting #gayff #extremeff
My latest:
Gay friends or more money? Columnist Alexander Cheves answers for a conflicted reader. out.com/voices/go-ask-alex-m…
I updated my 2016 fetish piece for @outmagazine with real research, expert sources, and more honesty about my own experience :)
Read it & send it to that one friend. You know which one.
out.com/relationships/gay-ki…
Really proud of this piece about my visit to Malta last year. Go check it out!
The Mediterranean island nation blends ancient history, vibrant queer community, DIY Pride spirit, and some of Europe’s strongest LGBTQ+ rights protections, reports travel writer Alexander Cheves. out.com/travel-nightlife/mal…
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Here is everything you need to know about fetishes, and how they intersect with gay culture. out.com/relationships/gay-ki…
Hey longtime readers! Remember "36 Fetishes Every Gay Man Needs to Know" from 2016 in @TheAdvocateMag? One of my most-read pieces, even 10 yrs later.
I wrote this new version to be more helpful for fetish beginners. Read it and all updated sex 101 pieces in @outmagazine ⛓️👊🏼🔥
Here is everything you need to know about fetishes, and how they intersect with gay culture. out.com/relationships/gay-ki…
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Columnist Alexander Cheves offers advice to a gay trans man navigating hookup anxiety, dysphoria, rejection, and intimacy with cis men. out.com/relationships/go-ask…
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This is a GREAT read! Don't just go buy it, RUN and buy one for your friends! (And buy DEEPER by @HungerFF while you're at it!)
This is the book @KirkusReviews called "not for squeamish readers" and @eBARnews called "akin to Kerouac". It's (reportedly) banned in the UK. It's my best, proudest, rawest work I've done.
Limited stock, don't wait. #gaybooks
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The Mediterranean island nation blends ancient history, vibrant queer community, DIY Pride spirit, and some of Europe’s strongest LGBTQ+ rights protections, reports travel writer Alexander Cheves. out.com/travel-nightlife/mal…
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Series 6 episode 3 - CHEMS 💊 ft. @BadAlexCheves and @NoNamefckrbln
Audio version available on all podcast platforms 🎧
Episode sponsored by @FuckYeahMachine @KINK3Ddesigns @STUDFIST @ToppedToys @x_lube
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Columnist Alexander Cheves responds to a reader who lives in a place where he feels he is "killing a part of myself" by hiding his gay identity. out.com/relationships/go-ask…
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Potentially the most gangster interview response in the world of literature
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It’s hard to make a living as a writer: fellowship money dries up, freelance rates keep dropping, and book advances aren’t what they used to be. Our new issue features a forum on the side hustles that journalists, novelists, and poets take on to survive.
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