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Alan retweeted
Super late. Couldn’t draw yesterday. Anywayssss.
New Art 🖼️
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Day 7
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Alan retweeted
Robert Lewandowski leaves Barça as free agent. 👋🏼
👟 190 games
⚽️ 119 goals
🅰️ 24 assists
🌟 143 goal contributions
🏆 3x La Liga
🏆 1x Copa del Rey
🏆 3x Spanish Supercup
¡Mi leyenda! 🐐
After four years full of challenges and hard work, it's time to move on.
I leave with the feeling that the mission is complete. 4 seasons, 3 championships.
I will never forget the love I received from the fans from my very first days.
Catalonia is my place on earth.
Thank you to everyone I met along the way during these beautiful four years.
A special thank you to President Laporta for giving me the chance to live the most incredible chapter of my career.
Barça is back where it belongs.
Visca el Barça. Visca Catalunya 💙❤️
@fcbarcelona
Alan retweeted
Oh, please hear me out. And I honestly hope people read this.
Feelings are in themselves fickle. They change. It’s why commitment cannot be anchored on feelings. It MUST be anchored on principles—shared principles.
When we talk about “Love” as it pertains to a relationship, it’s not a feeling. It cannot be a feeling. It HAS to be a deep sense of commitment, guided by principles. This is because it’s not every time you will be “happy” with your partner. It’s not everytime your relationship will be rosy cos life has different challenges. Arguments happen, misunderstandings happen (by the way, infidelity and abuse are
NOT misunderstandings! Let me clear that one!).
Hence, what keeps the sacredness of that commitment in moments of arguments, quarrels and displeasure are the principles guiding that commitment and how strictly they are adhered to.
People can go from lovebirds to arch-enemies when principles of trust, consideration, mutual respect, communication and fidelity are broken.
Emotions don’t keep commitment. Disciplined adherence to principles do.
In fact, in divorce conversations, you will hear people still say “I care for her/him but I know I cannot continue the relationship”.
Principles keep commitment, not emotions.
Quick thought yeah:
How do people go from loving each other deeply, courting, proposing, saying “I do” with so much joy and happiness, building a home, having children, planning forever together to becoming people who can’t even stand each other?
How does love deteriorate to the point where private pain becomes public consumption?
Dragging each other online, entertaining strangers, and allowing random people who know nothing about the relationship/union cast judgments and insults on lives that were once deeply intertwined.
This is honestly one of the most terrifying things about human relationships……how something that once felt so safe can eventually become so hostile like Game of Thrones. 😮💨
Alan retweeted
After 18 hours I've completed this drawing of @theofficialfwa and @ManUtd player of the year
Please tag @Snapdragon_UK @B_Fernandes8 @ManUtd let's get them to see this
#mufc
Takes plenty sha
Just do what works for your relationship fr
Also, there’s this nonsense some of you still do: your partner will offend or hurt you really badly, and instead of holding them accountable, you resort to apologizing for something you didn’t do just so peace can reign.
As in, they offended you, but because of their ego, they withdraw and keep to themselves, then you go and apologize to them for offending you. Do you see how ridiculous that sounds?
Do not be scared to lose people. If someone is too proud to own up to their mistakes and apologize to you, let that relationship go for good. I promise you, you deserve better than tolerating someone who does not understand the concept of accountability.
See, everybody knows what they are doing. We are all adults. If you offend your partner, take accountability for your actions. Apologize and mean it.
- “I’m sorry” is not enough.
- “Oya, sorry” is even worse.
- “I’m sorry if you felt offended” is not an apology.
- “It’s not that deep, sorry” is insane.
When you apologize, state exactly what you did, acknowledge how it affected them, tell them how genuinely sorry you are, and find ways to make it up to them. That is how reconciliation works.
Also worthy of note: during conflict resolution, if your partner tells you that your actions hurt their feelings, you do not have the right to tell them how they are supposed to feel. You don’t get to decide that “it’s not that deep.” Their feelings are valid, and you must respect that.
Also, when someone brings up what you did and how it affected them, that is not the time to become defensive or start reminding them of the things they did wrong in the past. You had all the time to address those issues, but you didn’t. Let them have their moment.
A lot of you just like the idea of a beautiful relationship, but you don’t understand what it takes to make one work. You want only the sweet parts while ignoring the difficult parts. It doesn’t work that way.
