she/her, 28 | adhd/aroreretini & chronic illness | pākehā in Aotearoa NZ | queer | bad at replies & dms | a mess.

Joined January 2020
I've been meaning to do an intro thread for ....more than a year, and just keep putting it off, so instead, here are some tweets that I think best represent what my twitter vibe is all about: xitter.cf/AdhdAngsty/status/1340…
Hi, if you're looking into ADHD and keep stopping yourself with the "but I'm probably just lazy", please know that everyone I've met who got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult felt the same way before diagnosis. You wouldn't be angsting over it so much it it was just laziness.
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adhd-angsty retweeted
Love this game 🙃
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So often I'll get into a situation that's challenging and just brute-force my way through. I've internalised that making accommodations for myself is weak - as though struggling through convos in loud bars is somehow tougher than saying "hey, can we go somewhere quieter?"
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The rules about how we're supposed to do things are silly at best and oppressive at worst. The world should be more accommodating, but it's not, so take the wins where you can. It's actually pretty rad to prioritise your own wellbeing over how you think you should behave.
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"Relationships are hard" means creating a life with someone and addressing your shared baggage takes patience, effort and reflection. It does not mean that conflict, unhappiness and resentment are inherent parts of relationships regardless of who you're dating.
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I've been with my current partner for 5 years now! That's required a lot of growth- we are both v different to how we started. But that growth has felt good and constantly rewarding.
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Wish I could go back and tell my 20 year old self that it's actually fully possible to be with someone that makes you feel more vivid, not washed out. And that someone making you feel like a more tired and stressed version of yourself is probs not the one for you.
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Unfortunately the more therapy I do the less I want to be on twitter, so yay for mental health but sorry for being so absent I guess haha
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Is it my calling or am I just hyperfocused on it: Memoirs of an ADHDer
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You should #Mask4YourMates because even if you don’t know it, you have disabled and chronically ill friends and whānau. Not everyone who is #HighRiskCovid19 looks like it, talks about it, or even knows it. You never know how many ppl you are keeping safe when you mask ☺️✨
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Kia ora Aotearoa 👋🏽 Just a wee PSA to say that masking if you can, even if you don’t “have to” is super rad 💜 Your disabled, immune compromised, #HighRiskCovid19 friends are counting on you to keep us safe as our world continues to shrink. So #Mask4YourMates ! Are you in?
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y’all, I mean this in the most genuine, kind, non-judgmental way, but I am begging some of you to please stop assuming that every misstep someone makes is made purposefully and maliciously.
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It is deeply sucky that unpacking trauma, dealing with mental illness, putting up boundaries etc generally makes you feel worse before it helps you feel better.
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It's worth it but damn, it's a two step forward one step back vibe for sure.
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Forcing someone to express only positive emotions can stifle their ability to communicate + make them feel badly abt themselves for having human negative thoughts. The result is guilt, + stuffing feelings inside, which is dangerous for mental health.
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adhd-angsty retweeted
I just inherently don't think it's sustainable to treat each day like a battle to be won against myself. I've got to be my own teammate in it, and to do that I have to start accepting who I actually am.
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I know it's not what people want to hear but the best thing I've done for my ADHD is cut myself slack. It's not planners, or medication, or productivity hacks. It's recognizing that the world is hard for me to be in and I need to support myself through it with self-compassion.
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yes, i'm already in therapy lmao
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I had this very same lightbulb moment in therapy & that’s when I realised all my self-loathing & self-esteem issues related to my undiagnosed #ADHD had led me to cope w/ an incredibly unhealthy amount of perfectionism, so external praise was *life* & its lack an automatic failure
My therapist just told me that the goal of working can just be to get your tasks done, not to recieve praise. Which like, duh, but also ohhhhh.
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