Hombre🕺

Just a lil niceness and this bttm catching feelings 😩

A handsome face or an attractive body which one are you choosing? 😭 You can only pick one. No cheating!

Apparently, saying I prefer masculine men is enough to start an argument in some gay spaces. Suddenly I’m being told I must hate feminine men, I’m ashamed of being gay, or I’m chasing straight guys who will never want me. But when did I say any of that? I’m attracted to masculinity. That’s simply what appeals to me. I don’t think feminine men are inferior, and I don’t believe everyone should have the same preferences. So why does expressing my type sometimes get interpreted as attacking someone else’s identity?

HAVING A GAY DAY Episode 1: The Hookup Culture Reality Host: Marcus | Special Guest: Matt Bomer😎 MARCUS: Welcome back to HAVING A GAY DAY, where we discuss the things gay people experience, the thing they pretend they don’t experience, and the things that somehow become everybody’s business. (laughs) Today’s conversation is about hookup culture. And I have a question: Have we genuinely become more comfortable with casual intimacy, or have we simply become better at pretending we don’t want emotional connections? Welcome to the show! MATT BOMER: Thank you, Marcus. I’m excited about this one because I think people have very different experiences with hookup culture, and sometimes we judge everybody based on our own experiences. MARCUS: Let’s start there. Do you think hookup culture has improved gay dating? MATT BOMER: I think it has made meeting people easier, but building meaningful connections more complicated. You can meet someone in minutes. You can have a conversation, exchange pictures, arrange a meeting and spend an evening together. But knowing somebody? Understanding their personality, values, insecurities and intentions? That’s a completely different process. MARCUS: So we’ve mastered introductions but haven’t necessarily mastered relationships? MATT BOMER: Exactly. Sometimes people know what you look like, what you’re interested in physically and where you live, but they don’t know what makes you happy. MARCUS: (laughs) They know your measurements but don’t know your middle name! MATT BOMER: Exactly! MARCUS: Why do you think people are increasingly treating one another as disposable? MATT BOMER: I think the endless availability of new people plays a role. When someone believes there’s always another option, they might not feel motivated to work through ordinary disagreements. One awkward conversation becomes a reason to disappear. One misunderstanding becomes an excuse to move on. People sometimes mistake having options for having better options. MARCUS: That’s interesting. Because sometimes the problem isn’t that the person you’re dating is terrible. It’s that you’re expecting them to be perfect while keeping everybody else on standby. MATT BOMER: Yes. And I don’t think casual dating itself is the problem. Two adults can agree that they don’t want commitment and still treat each other with respect. The problem is dishonesty. It’s pretending to want something meaningful because you know that’s what the other person wants. MARCUS: Have you ever met somebody who was completely honest about wanting something casual, but the other person secretly hoped it would become serious? MATT BOMER: Many times. And that’s where people need to become honest with themselves. If you know you want commitment, don’t continuously accept casual arrangements hoping somebody will eventually change their mind. MARCUS: So what advice would you give somebody navigating hookup culture? MATT BOMER: Know what you’re looking for before getting emotionally involved. Communicate your intentions. Don’t confuse attention with affection. Don’t assume physical chemistry means emotional compatibility. And never feel pressured to participate in something simply because everybody around you seems comfortable with it. MARCUS: Beautifully said. Here’s my takeaway: Casual doesn’t have to mean careless. You can enjoy someone’s company without promising forever. But you should never make somebody feel disposable simply because you’re not looking for a relationship. And remember, being wanted for one evening and being valued as a person are two entirely different things. Thank you for joining us. MATT BOMER: Thank you for having me. MARCUS: And to everybody watching, here’s today’s question: Has hookup culture made gay dating more exciting or has it made genuine connection harder to find? Drop your honest opinion in the comments. This is HAVING A GAY DAY. See you next time!

What’s the worst thing you’ve ever caught your boyfriend doing that you NEVER thought you’d forgive? And the real question: did you actually leave, or are you two still together? 😭 Monogamous, open relationships, situationships — everybody has a story.

Am so obsessed 😍

Dear Gays, It's ok to have a six pack It's ok to have a dad bod It's ok to be 22 It's ok to be 71 It's ok to have money It's ok to have none It's not ok to leave other gays behind because they don't meet a criteria. We're family. We belong. Together. Sincerely, A Gay who loves you

Gay men you can be someone's type and still not be their person.

Gay men: when does a sleepover become moving in? One spare toothbrush seems innocent. Then his skincare has a shelf and your good charger has a new owner. 😂 What was the first thing he left at yours?

What a beautiful day to be Trinidadian and Gay AF! 🇹🇹🏳️‍🌈 they made history today sibs! it is no longer illegal to be gay in Trinidad and Tobago 🥳🥳

This is what I learned while on grindr: 1) I attract men who are much more older than I am (maybe they have nothing to loose by shooting their shots) 2) I shouldn't be on grindr looking for something serious 3) the app is crap even if you pay for it 4) people don't read bios 5) I'm not even sure that people are actually hooking up since people don't reply 6) men have no idea how to have a conversation even if they message first and they stop replying faster than Sonic can run

There are many ways to experience a fulfilling gay life. Some people want marriage and children, others want independence, travel, friendships or creative freedom. Some enjoy nightlife and dating, while others prefer quieter routines. None of these choices makes someone more or less authentic. What does a genuinely fulfilling life look like to you?

Gays are we really spending $29-$50 on the Peachy Men Gummies? Fiber is like $10 at the grocery store. Are the gummies different?

still not over this loincloth reveal😈 Literally my newest obsession. So glad I found it before the release of season two! North of north

I think living alone has turned me into someone who barely wears clothes at home. The moment I enter my apartment, I’m taking everything off. Sometimes I stay in my underwear, sometimes I walk around completely naked, and honestly, I’ve never felt more comfortable. The only problem is that my apartment has a huge window, and neighbouring buildings aren’t exactly that far away. So now I have to remember that while I’m enjoying my freedom, someone might accidentally get a free show. Is being naked at home this common, or am I doing too much? 😭

Why do you think loneliness is so common among gay men, even in communities where meeting other gay men is relatively easy? Is it because people are becoming more selective, because hookup culture has replaced genuine connection, or because many people struggle to be emotionally available? You can have endless options and still struggle to find someone who genuinely wants to know you. What do you think is driving this?

Some gay men have 500 conversations on Grindr but somehow nobody to call when they're having a bad day.

I’m asking whether gay couples share their friendship groups? I’m a guy with a close circle of male friends, and I’ve genuinely wondered what happens when you start dating another man. Do your boys become his boys too? Does he come on the boys’ holiday? Or do you keep certain friendships separate?

Sometimes gay men remain emotionally attached because they keep interpreting ordinary kindness as evidence that something might eventually happen. Every message becomes meaningful, every meeting creates hope and every silence becomes something to analyse. At some point, accepting reality becomes more important than understanding every little interaction. Have you ever had to stop yourself from turning someone's friendliness into a romantic possibility?