Are We A Match? A wise skill for humans, specifically women, is the clear articulation of who you are and what you are about. This saves a lot of difficulties in the future and allows you to curate with salience in the present. There is no lack of your kind; they simply need a clear enough signal to find you. The “not a fit” ones need a clear signal that they will not be happy here, and it’s best to move on so that they can find their kind, too. Not pretending to be anything other than who you are is the friendliest thing you can do for everyone. The only reason one might do that is if they have fallen under the delusion of scarcity. Don’t do that. There is no need to assert your identity or conceal it; just be you. This being said, as more people have started following me, I genuinely want to ensure that you are in the right place, that what I offer will be beneficial, and that our conversations will be lively and interesting. Good lord, I do not understand why people come into a comment section to say stupid shit. Yes! Bring up valid points, debate, and dialogue. We both are the better for that and all benefit. But blanket statements about “calling bullshit” or the other self-important things people—especially women—do when they are “triggered.” Move along, little buckaroo. You can now gather that I am not everyone’s cup of tea. So much the better. It makes a stronger cup of tea. I’ve been called many things in the media. Behind my back. Online. Oddly, never to my face. Oh wait, that is not so “oddly.” To clarify: I am an opinionated, passionate, money-where-my-mouth-is, hardcore practitioner, deeply compassionate (including fierce compassion), deeply committed woman who believes that the purpose of life is to get out of suffering, the causes of suffering and to help others get out of suffering—and most specifically that the route for women involves the activation, realization, and employment of sexual energies. If any of the above triggers you, feel free to do ‘yo thang,’ do it well, and I bid you adieu. To add, I have a bawdy and direct sense of humor; I suffer no fools, and I am in no way in agreement with the recent enfeebling of humans – especially women – with the helicopter culture rules that might be called political correctness. If “safe spaces,” “trigger warnings,” and “religious beliefs” are part of your psychic lexicon, we are not a fit. Swipe left. I am interested in people who want radical engagement and participation in the world, who do not devolve to cynicism easily, who are cosmonauts interested in mystical states but don’t identify with the “medicine” crowd; those who don’t identify with much really because they have some fundamental notion that identity is the issue. The people I want to curate for see play as a high state of consciousness and seek out 5D chess boards, the most complex of which is how to end human suffering. I am interested in the all-terrain people who fearlessly enter any realm with equal and simultaneous attention—from the dark alleys to the transcendent heights, those who love the incarcerated, question the spiritual authorities, and delight when they discover a new access point. The faint of heart will not be happy here, but those whose hearts tremble with fierce compassion for all will. I like junkies, strippers, the marginalized, Vajrayana, erotic activists, trippers, infinite players, and lovers. If bad reputations, cancellations, or fears of guilt by association plague you, I am definitely not your gal. If that is not you, then there are superb places to go. I’ve been to many and have tremendous respect for the domains that specialize in the “healing” modalities. I can even suggest excellent places I’ve visited, books I’ve read, and thought leaders I’ve listened to. Gabor Maté is very sincere, Vipassana and Zen are beautiful, Brené Brown and Anne Lamott are genuine and kind-hearted. Let me know if you want recommendations. And this is a great off-ramp. Now that it is just the two of us, three of us, or four. Let’s rock this world. Let’s grab the livewire of the creative force and show them what they’ve never seen. I believe that the ones who do not fit in the box, tricksters and bandits of the dharma, the lusty ones, bad girls, and wild horses could and should lead the charge. All the people who have colored outside the lines are the most potent because they did not sell their souls and power to fit into the girdle of propriety. I believe that when all resources and gifts are shared with well-vetted, like-minded people who are geared for intelligent benefit, what could be called magic – but is really just alignment – happens. Let me know how you want to play, and let’s get on with the business at hand. Love you.

I care about one and only one thing. I care about it so much that I care about everything and that is getting out of suffering, eliminating the causes of suffering, and getting everyone else out of suffering, too. I utilize religions like libraries. I try the ideas out on loan. I met a pastor. When I said I’d had an encounter with Christ in dream yoga but that I am not fond of the conventions of Christianity, he had a genius response. At the time of Christ there was no bible and there were no Christians. Same really, for the Buddha, there was no Buddhism. Call it defiance or a calling, I knew that my path was to journey as a woman along the not-so-well-paved path of the feminine. And as it has been said, “The left-handed path is best never commenced but if it is it must be finished.” I relinquished a lot of boons; a certain protection or refuge, a certain recognition, a certain certainty. I did it, as Obama said about Hillary, backwards in heels. The way a woman must dance if she is to have her own. Mine is a dual path. And it’s a good thing I have eternity to complete it. I want the conventional enlightenment. The stamp of approval that comes from a bona fide tradition. But it is not enough for me, as a woman, to merely conform to or rest in a male tradition. I must use that ground to then raise up the feminine mysticism as it were. Like those communes by women for women. But not as a feminist endeavor, as a human endeavor. For until woman has her own, on her own terms, she can never be a true ally to men, to other women, to herself.

Feminism should be the fertile ground from which grow strong, capable, confident, and independent-minded women. Feminism should reveal and amplify the power of women. It is the liberation of a force that cannot be confined. This is where feminism must begin; not as a system that accommodates for weakness, but as the unflinching experience of your own power.

Find yourself a good woman. By good, we mean unstoppable. One who sees you lit and does not flinch. One who will not let you lie to yourself, and loves you all the more for it. She is not interested in fixing you. She is interested in seeing you rise.

Women have been saddled with so much projection that we have experienced not only a separation of body and mind, but also body and self. An awakened self is a whole self in every moment. No longer do we put on masks or inhabit various roles depending on the situation. It is safe to come home.

I have stood in front of 20,000 women and said it plainly, clearly, and without hesitation: you hold the power. Slack jaws. Glazed eyes. Every single time. I am more powerful than any man on earth. The only difference between another woman and me is that I know it.

The state of your nervous system profoundly affects other people. Were every woman to take responsibility for her nervous system, we would experience the healing of the world.

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Desire is the sense of how to fulfill the injunctions of our soul. It is the only force powerful enough to compel the otherwise intransigent personality to recognize the soul’s unique longings. It is the force through which the soul seduces us into contact with it.⁠

We cannot know life through any medium other than the body. — The Eros Sutras⁠

Grateful to see more people recognizing how this affects all of us. “The statement argues that the OneTaste decision departed from this principle by treating subjective accounts of influence as evidence of forced labor. It cites the “National Law Review” 2025 analysis, which states that the case “obliterated the line drawn in Kozminski,” turning trafficking law into a tool for policing belief and teaching. CAP-LC quotes the article’s warning that “every disgruntled ex-Mormon missionary, former seminarian, or departed ashram resident potentially holds a contingency fee lottery ticket,” illustrating how the precedent could expose mainstream religious communities to litigation.” bitterwinter.org/the-onetast…

"The legal theory used to secure the convictions marks a major departure from established constitutional principles," states the CAP LC letter to the U.N. Human Rights Council. "The defendants were  convicted…based solely on psychological influence, without evidence of threats, violence, or physical coercion."

You not only open yourself to, and confront, the discarded and rejected aspects that lie dormant within you, but you are drawn to them, fully capable of transforming them into meaning and beauty. You discover that what fortifies you is precisely what has been missing; the discarded and rejected become fuel for your emergence into the totality of being. You now can see in the dark.⁠

Enjoy part two of my blog about delivering a Tibetan Buddhist Tara empowerment to the women of MDC Brooklyn. (Part one below...) "The voice was speaking through me. Every lesson learned at the Metropolitan Detention Center—don’t take it personally, focus only on being of benefit, relaxed joy is the way—was called into service. Carina’s ADD kicked in, her leg twitched. Cardi and Janiya laughed uncomfortably in the back. It felt like a school for wayward girls. I kept my focus on the script and on Green Tara herself." thetattooedbuddha.com/2026/0…

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I am proud to announce that OneTaste and Eros are the subject of a newly published peer-reviewed academic study by The World Religions and Spirituality Project. The World Religions and Spirituality Project, out of Virginia Commonwealth University, is considered the gold standard of academic analysis of religious and spiritual movements around the world. It is supported by university professors and scholars who study these movements along with their philosophies and activities. After years of sensationalistic media and prosecutorial mischaracterization of the practices and principles of the Eros spiritual lineage, neutral and informed academic study now provides a clear picture of my epistemology of Eros and the spiritual practice of Orgasmic Meditation. The paper was authored by Massimo Introvigne, co-founder of CESNUR, Chairperson of Italy's Ministry of Foreign Affairs Observatory on Religious Liberty, along with Maria Vardé, PhD candidate and currently faculty of Philosophy and Humanities at the University of Buenos Aires. Read here: wrldrels.org/2026/05/22/one-…

Enjoy part one of my latest blog on @TattooedBuddhaT about the Tara empowerment I recently offered my fellow inmates at MDC Brooklyn. May all beings be peaceful. May all beings be happy. May all beings be safe. May all beings awaken to the light of their true nature. May all beings be free. "On a phone call a few weeks back my lama had paused for a moment, “I think it’s become a good time for the women at  MDC to receive an empowerment. We can get you the materials you would need. I don’t know if I’ve ever heard of a Buddhist empowerment in a prison before; this may indeed be the first.”" thetattooedbuddha.com/2026/0…

Being incarcerated has been one of the most powerful spiritual experiences of my life. I also miss all of my amazing conversations I've had over the years here on Insta. Prison is a deeply intimate place and I would love to share the experience with you, in the way we can. If you have any questions about life on the inside––what I’m learning, what’s surprised me, our practices, the prison to monastery vision, women's power––you can put them in comments and I'll respond in posts.