My parents taught me something that has stayed with me for more than 40 years. They said to me, “Once you share something with somebody, it is no longer a secret.” My mother would say to me, “When someone says, ‘I am sharing this with you in confidence,’ you should tell them that there is no confidence once something has been shared with someone else who is not part of it.” In other words, once you share something with someone, you have to accept that you no longer have complete control over it. I want to put it in my mother’s own words: “Why should someone keep your secret if you cannot keep it yourself?” I mentor many young men and women, talking to them about their professions, social lives, finances, relationships and investments. One thing I always tell them is this: whatever you do, never film private and intimate moments. Intimate moments are meant to remain private. They are for the people involved, not for an audience. Unless you are a professional adult entertainer who has consciously chosen that profession, there is no reason to record yourself in such circumstances. Once someone suggests filming an intimate moment, ask yourself a simple question; why do you need to capture this? If the moment is genuinely private and meant only for the two of you, why does there need to be a recording? The moment you agree to being filmed, you lose control of that footage. You may trust the person holding the phone today, but you cannot control what happens tomorrow. They may send it to someone else. Someone may share it out of jealousy, spite or malice. Someone else may circulate it to embarrass you, damage your reputation or simply for entertainment. Once it is out there, you cannot put the genie back in the bottle. Do not assume that because you trust someone today, you will always be able to trust them tomorrow. Relationships break down. People fall out. People get angry. Phones get stolen. Accounts get hacked. Friends share things they promised to keep private. A private moment can suddenly become public and permanently affect someone's reputation, career, relationships and family. This is why parents need to have honest conversations with their children about these things. We cannot simply provide food, clothes, school fees and a roof over their heads and assume that is enough. We have to teach young people about dignity, boundaries, privacy, consequences, relationships and self-respect. I am also deeply concerned when married people make decisions that can destroy their own families and the lives of other people. How does a married woman, or a married man, become comfortable with filming themselves having sex with someone outside their marriage? What values are we passing on to the next generation? We need to stop pretending that these issues do not matter. The breakdown of families, poor parenting, the absence of guidance and the normalisation of irresponsible behaviour can manifest themselves in many ways. Teach your children. Talk to them. Give them values. Teach them that not everything they do needs to be recorded, photographed or shared. Some moments are meant to remain private. My advice to young people is simple: protect your dignity, protect your privacy and never create a recording that could one day be used to destroy you.